THE CHAIN OF EVENTS, continued

....Now the social intelligence comes up with the most diabolical tricks from its armory. As time goes on and Susan spends more and more time with Craig, social intelligence deems Craig as “FAMILIAR” having done that it declares Craig and all experiences related to him as its sovereign domain and shuts all doors out for a possible being to being connection between the two via innate intelligence. The social intelligence does not stop at that it labels the relationship as love, creates a love folder and starts storing memories. This is where it commits another blunder, it then goes on indiscriminately storing all sorts of contradictory memories in the folder dubiously named LOVE eventually all the data from “THIS IS WRONG, IT SHOULD NOT BE HAPPENING LIKE THIS” folder, all the “NEGATIVE DEVIATIONS”, are mutually shared in the love folder too.
It become like a jar in the kitchen labeled “sugar”. To begin with there had been some sugar in the jar but when it got over the lady of the house found it more convenient to store salt in this jar and when salt was finished she put an entire pack of newly opened chilli powder in the jar since no other empty container was available at that time. But throughout the chain of these incidents the jar has been bearing the label “sugar” on it and on numerous occasions the lady has put salt in the coffee (fooled by the label) and chilli powder in the deserts spoiling the whole thing but still not taking the lesson.
That just by labeling the jar as “sugar” it would not automatically start storing sugar. It can only contain what we put in it. So when the sugar in is running low or is about to get over it has to be replaced with more sugar and not salt and chillies. This will require both alertness and constant effort.
Alertness to always keep a check as to what is happening now? We may have been very happy in the past (1, 2 or 5 years ago) but are we happy now?
To keep a check that the jar of relationships is just labeled as “love” or it contains love too and that the love content of the jar (relationship) is increasing, decreasing or has remained the same. To keep a check if love is not coming out of the jar of a particular relationship then what has been stored now in the jar of this relationship of late in place of love.
It will require a lot of alertness and willingness to find the “incorrect item” (anger, jealousy, doubt etc...) filling up the jar (relationship) labeled as LOVE.
Surely it will be a lot of effort to remove the incorrect items (anger, jealousy, doubt, mistrust, irritation etc...) and again replace them with LOVE.
This makes us realize that life is a constantly flowing stream of change and the rigid and unchanging “golden memories” and “incorrect labels” only add to the confusion and misery already pervading our lives and fail despondently in fulfilling their false promises of happiness and satisfaction.
We draw two lessons and also are faced with a few new questions.
Two lessons drawn are
I. All relationships (family, friends, lovers each and every relationship without any exception) require a constant and honest reassessment of their current condition and then accordingly need to be taken up for servicing or a total overhaul as deemed fit by the assessment requirements.
II. This process requires three essential components, WILLINGNESS, ALERTNESS are CLARITY.

It also leaves us with the question as to what are these magical ingredients (willingness, alertness are clarity) that can make our lives so wonderful and worth living for?