So now we understand that in our case we do a clear violation of the “felling – thought – verbalization – expression” pathway by starting at the wrong place that is thoughts instead of feelings. But that is only natural to us because we are stationed within our social intelligence and have lost all links with our innate intelligence which is the true birth place of feelings. So the language which was born to express the feelings in the first place has now overridden and overwritten its own creator, the feelings. Please understand that the language was born out of the FEELING of necessity to smoothly and effectively communicate but now language itself has filled, occupied and completely cloaked our entire system, so much so that its own creator (the feelings) is hard to find in our system. Language (a facet of social intelligence) has created a poor substitute, a cheap replica of feelings that is MOOD and we are repeatedly fooled by it into accepting moods as our feelings. But our previous discussion has made the difference between the two (moods & feelings) amply clear. Now when we communicate without feelings and purely through thoughts we are in desperate need of a “Common reference database” in the form of language we use but this “Common reference database” defined previously as “a generalized agreement upon MEANINGS IMPLIED by a variety of syllables, sounds, gestures and script symbols for the ease of conveying thoughts, ideas and feelings between individuals” has its limitations after a certain point. For example the words DOG refers to dogs as we all know the animal that we all know so well for its loyalty (and barking) but each one of us in our own minds and according to our own experience and likings is seeing a different breed of dog ( an Alsatian or a beagle or poodle etc...) . They are all dogs none the less but each starkly apart a poodle against a bull dog or a Chihuahua against a boxer are all worlds apart. This example aims to expose the inadequacy of language and its shortfall at its ability to convey details beyond a certain limit. One may argue that in the previous example if instead of the words DOG had a specific breed name been mentioned then each and every reader would have visualized the same thing. Wrong again!!!! Well even if the specific breed name was mentioned each one of us would only end up imagining (visualizing in our minds) that dog of that breed which we have seen and then again the differences between individual dogs of each breed are stark. So now we get downright ridiculous we say “a 7 years of age boxer dog of 80 pound weight, 24 inches height, with distinctive drooping jowls, a sleek, tight fitting coat that needs minimal attention.” Is everyone able to see that same boxer in their mind..............? Impossible. So now let us discuss another example but with a more human touch to it. A group of people are at a party and an elderly lady makes a reference about a common acquaintance of the group, Mr. Albert, who has yet not arrived and is delayed. One lady is all praises and says that Albert is such a charming and obedient person, she is his aunt. A young man present there just smiles (and does not speak) but holds a contrastingly opposite opinion, he feels that Mr. Albert is an overambitious, domineering and very intolerant man, he is Mr. Albert’s subordinate at the office. A young lady, one amongst the gathering, feels that Uncle Albert is the most charming and considerate person in the entire family, she is his niece. Another person just chuckles and nods his head in disagreement without saying a word but he feels that Mr. Albert is the most callous, insensitive and deceptive person on the planet, he is a customer to whom Mr. Albert sold a piece of property through his firm.
Please understand all the people at the party are talking about only one person, and they all know him well (unlike our unseen boxer breed,dog,example), yet the images, visualizations and feelings generated upon referral of that one name are so very different. At one end is love and respect and at the other are anger, disgust and hatred.
