THE CHAIN OF EVENTS, continued

....Now the social intelligence comes up with the most diabolical tricks from its armory. As time goes on and Susan spends more and more time with Craig, social intelligence deems Craig as “FAMILIAR” having done that it declares Craig and all experiences related to him as its sovereign domain and shuts all doors out for a possible being to being connection between the two via innate intelligence. The social intelligence does not stop at that it labels the relationship as love, creates a love folder and starts storing memories. This is where it commits another blunder, it then goes on indiscriminately storing all sorts of contradictory memories in the folder dubiously named LOVE eventually all the data from “THIS IS WRONG, IT SHOULD NOT BE HAPPENING LIKE THIS” folder, all the “NEGATIVE DEVIATIONS”, are mutually shared in the love folder too.
It become like a jar in the kitchen labeled “sugar”. To begin with there had been some sugar in the jar but when it got over the lady of the house found it more convenient to store salt in this jar and when salt was finished she put an entire pack of newly opened chilli powder in the jar since no other empty container was available at that time. But throughout the chain of these incidents the jar has been bearing the label “sugar” on it and on numerous occasions the lady has put salt in the coffee (fooled by the label) and chilli powder in the deserts spoiling the whole thing but still not taking the lesson.
That just by labeling the jar as “sugar” it would not automatically start storing sugar. It can only contain what we put in it. So when the sugar in is running low or is about to get over it has to be replaced with more sugar and not salt and chillies. This will require both alertness and constant effort.
Alertness to always keep a check as to what is happening now? We may have been very happy in the past (1, 2 or 5 years ago) but are we happy now?
To keep a check that the jar of relationships is just labeled as “love” or it contains love too and that the love content of the jar (relationship) is increasing, decreasing or has remained the same. To keep a check if love is not coming out of the jar of a particular relationship then what has been stored now in the jar of this relationship of late in place of love.
It will require a lot of alertness and willingness to find the “incorrect item” (anger, jealousy, doubt etc...) filling up the jar (relationship) labeled as LOVE.
Surely it will be a lot of effort to remove the incorrect items (anger, jealousy, doubt, mistrust, irritation etc...) and again replace them with LOVE.
This makes us realize that life is a constantly flowing stream of change and the rigid and unchanging “golden memories” and “incorrect labels” only add to the confusion and misery already pervading our lives and fail despondently in fulfilling their false promises of happiness and satisfaction.
We draw two lessons and also are faced with a few new questions.
Two lessons drawn are
I. All relationships (family, friends, lovers each and every relationship without any exception) require a constant and honest reassessment of their current condition and then accordingly need to be taken up for servicing or a total overhaul as deemed fit by the assessment requirements.
II. This process requires three essential components, WILLINGNESS, ALERTNESS are CLARITY.

It also leaves us with the question as to what are these magical ingredients (willingness, alertness are clarity) that can make our lives so wonderful and worth living for?

THE CHAIN OF EVENTS

Susan meets Craig for the first time and for a moment sinks into her innate intelligence. This slipping into innate intelligence may be due to Craig’s enchanting behavior, may be due a sense of relaxation & relief (since exam results had been declared the same afternoon and she had cleared the exams along with a few others), may be accidental, may be due to the ambiance....... there are “N” number of probable reasons and one can never know for sure what made it happen but the bottom line is that on that evening at that party during her conversation with Craig it happened. Now the innate intelligence is the storehouse of all the positivity and goodness in our lives, the moment she slips into it like a flash everything change, everything appears so beautiful, so fresh, so alive and like a pleasant breeze this phenomenon just sweeps Susan (who is now feeling her existence as light as a feather) off her feet. She is experiencing profound SILENCE, the surroundings are merging into each other with indistinct boundaries and amidst this pleasant experience she is with Craig. So Susan sinks into her innate intelligence and COINCIDENTALLY it happens during her conversation with Craig.
Now begins the fundamental mistake. As soon as she reverts to her social intelligence (words and mind stuff) there is an immediate recognition of the pleasant experience she had gone through. “Conversion of a feeling generated in innate intelligence to a mere memory or idea in the format of words and labels of social intelligence” has occurred. But now the social intelligence will not rest, it is like the tiger that has tasted fresh blood.
The social intelligence which is totally unaware of the existence or the reality of innate intelligence immediately gets busy to find out the cause behind the pleasant experience she had had. Craig is identified as the obvious cause for the sense of elation and pleasantness and this precisely is the fundamental error.
“Identification of outer world objects, persons and situations as the cause of happiness which actually was generated within one’s very own self (within one’s own innate intelligence) by the social intelligence”.
Now the greed to obtain and sustain happiness via media Craig takes over Susan and it will keep her restless until she gets enough and more proof, a sought of guarantee, that her new found source of happiness (in this case Craig) would continue to be with her forever. This precisely is the cause for all the worry and excitement initially, “that whether or not this source of happiness would continue to be with me?”
Once Craig hints at his approval then this question (“that whether or not this source of happiness would continue to be with me?”) gets answered and a sense of settlement, relaxation and calm prevails all of a sudden this again pushes her back into her innate intelligence refreshing her and making her feel pleasant and now she comes out even more convinced that Craig is the cause to her happiness and her greed to obtain and sustain this happiness takes firm roots within her. Now she will become possessive and extremely so, since she sees Craig as a resource of her happiness and is haunted by the fear of losing him.
So she eagerly waits to convert this “holiday home of sorts” relationship of theirs where there is a lot of freedom for both individuals especially Craig who is still not completely committed into an “impenetrable castle” of marriage. All this is being done only to ensure that her source of happiness is ensured to stay with her. So when Craig proposes then there is no time to think or wait she takes a plunge she had been so eagerly waiting to.............