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Business minded or more subtle (adding beauty and richness to life) both approaches have at their heart a “desire for more” a desire for EXPANSION and this desire for expansion is a fundamental desire the cause behind all causes of “desire for more” the one single whip that keeps whipping us into constant action throughout our lives, making us do whatever we do, behave the way we behave, think the way we think etc… in essence it is the engine of the automobile of life.
EXPANSION is a very natural cosmic event or order. Big bang set it off 15 Billion years ago and since then there has been no looking back the universe is expanding at an unimaginable pace, parts of it at the speed of light. The gaseous masses expand and coalesce to become stars. The rivers (tributaries) expand by joining a larger river which in turn expands by joining the ocean. Everything in this universe is growing (& of course aging and dying), so are the human beings according to the cosmic blue print, but their growth is to occur on two planes.
The obvious physical plane and the more sublime (so to say) metaphysical plane. The growth on the physical plane is a pre-programmed fully automated process and neither requires any of our contribution nor does it bother about our consensus. But the growth on the metaphysical plane, should more aptly be called as development, is completely dependent upon our insight and action, it is an open uninitiated program waiting to be custom developed.
This process of internal development following the cosmic blue print is EXPANSION driven. That is the process of metaphysical growth is a process of expansion and relationships are its spring boards to dive into the sea of expansion. The external physical world around us nothing more than lay out generated by our internal world for its own development and expansion. Every person, situation, event and relation is opportunity passing by us any or all of them can be used by us so as to contribute to our own inner growth. But we have just been doing the opposite all along.
We stay outside the entire time holding finely cut pieces of glass which are our counterfeits to the real diamonds. That is, we act as if we are loving, caring, friendly and intimate, but this is just an act and not a reality it is a very superficial enactment with no substance from within because we have never bothered to look into the within. We all very clearly know that ours are counterfeits (glass instead of diamonds) but our inner search for expansion, for the real has driven us crazy by now because till now we have always responded to these paroxysms of inner search (inner, metaphysical development) in all the wrong directions searching knowledge, degrees, awards, certificates, wealth, fame, love, fulfilling relationships always on the outside. So this craziness of ours makes us believe that what the other is carrying are diamonds and the other person is no different from us he/she in his/her craziness sees us in possession of diamonds. Two people with counterfeits of the real diamonds (love, care, sensitivity, friendliness and intimacy) blinded by their craziness, become absolutely certain that the other is in possession of the real thing, the original diamonds. Sooner than later the truth dawns upon both the parties that the other like themselves is in possession of only beautiful glass pieces (acts of loving, caring, friendliness, sensitivity and intimacy) and not diamond and this is a shattering revelation. All romance comes to an end and bitterness fills every nook and cranny of life both parties blame the other for cheating them when the truth is that their own craziness has cheated themselves.
But for a person responding to the pangs of inner expansion with utter sincerity every person, situation, event and relation is an opportunity to share and expand. He has responded to his pangs of expansion with honesty and directed his attention inwards and he has realized that he does not possess a diamond or two instead within him is an inexhaustible diamond mine which not only defies the laws of ordinary economics rather behaves exactly opposite to them. The ordinary laws of economics say that if we give we are left with lesser than we had and if we go on giving we would soon be left with nothing. But the diamond mine of true love, care, sensitivity, friendliness and intimacy goes on expanding and increasing itself the more we spend it, in fact it shrinks and begins to disappear if we don’t spend its diamonds and securely confine them to ourselves alone. For such a person the other exists only for the joy of sharing, for giving. And when two such inner billionaires meet life becomes a dance of joy each wants to share himself with the other because he has so much and it is uncontainable and both exist not to take anything but to give everything.

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We understand that relationships are a psychological bridge between people, we also understand their two components (mental and emotional), but now it’s time to take a step further and ask ourselves a very fundamental root shaking question.
Why do we need relationships? Are relationships a real necessity in our lives?
The relationships consume so much of our energy and emotions are they worth all this?
The answer to all these questions can be a YES or it can be a NO depending on what is that we are looking for in our lives !!!!!!
So let us begin with the NO. No relationships are not at all necessary if we are interested in leading a utilitarian robotic life. No relationships are not worth the time, energy and emotion we pump into them, if we are interested in a business like investment is to return ratio from relationships.
On the other hand if we are one of those who are interested in living a life filled with sweetness, joy and self-expansion then relationships are a necessity. But still there is another paradox here, that if we enter a relationship with a want or a desire (no matter how gross or how subtle) we would find all relationships unworthy and unfulfilling.
So a PARADOX appears and the paradox is that relationships are worthwhile only for those who are looking for sweetness, joy and self-expansion and not for business minded people bothered about investment is to return ratios, but even those who plunge into a relationship with the idea of obtaining sweetness, joy and self-expansion from a relationship in their life will find it unworthy and unfulfilling sooner or later just like the business minded people do from the very beginning.
This paradox is no ordinary paradox it is a window into another world, a portal to another dimension and hence an insight into it is very important. Looked at casually the paradox implies that all relationships shall sooner or later become unworthy and unfulfilling no matter what is our initial approach to them, but a diving into its depth opens up an entirely new dimension of existence.