So what exactly was the intricate mistake in all these situations?
“Conversion of a feeling generated in innate intelligence to a mere memory or idea in the format of words and labels of social intelligence”.
So what’s wrong with that? And what has it got to do with relationships?
Susan meets Craig for the first time and somewhere amidst there exciting conversation there occurs one eye contact and she is swept off her feet, a wonderful experience dawns upon her being!!!!!!
Moments later she snaps out of her personal bliss zone and returns to the normalcy of the mundane reality. Now her mind (social intelligence) has kicked into action “this is it......... this is LOVE” “this is what you have been looking for all your life!!!!!!!!” Excitement grips her. This is an Excitement of being in love mixed with the excitement of uncertainty. She is unable to be at rest, she is constantly stormed by “does he love me too?” or “does he not”. All is this is very unlike the soothing and joyous experience she had had upon her first meeting but it is exciting and unrelenting none the less. Day in and day out she figures out ingenious new ways to strike a conversation with Craig and amidst the conversation she is busy scrutinising each and every word and gesture of his to find a clue to the two bothersome duo in her mind “does he love me too?” or “does he not”. As days pass by Craig seems to be resigning into Susan’s persistence and not exactly on a particular day or date but somewhere with indistinct boundaries of date and time they both slowly realize a mutual liking exists between the two. So now Susan gets a sort of confirmation (an indirect one through extrapolation of Craig’s behaviour and by reading between the lines) that Craig also likes her and Craig on the other hand finds a number of characteristics of Susan very affable. So he too is declaring this phenomenon as LOVE to himself.
Now the state of affairs is quiet a pleasing one, the tormenting excitement of “does he love me too?” or “does he not” has been replaced by sense of a more relaxed longing to meet Craig often ,within Susan, and Craig’s doubts and dilemmas about “is she the one?” have given way to “there cannot be any one better”. The eagerly awaited rendezvous, the excitement of meeting each other, stealing glances, the endless exchange of innumerable words, time just evaporating away in each other’s company............... Oh this is bliss..........
And finally it happens; Craig proposes and does so with a genuine style and flair. Susan, who of course has been expecting and eagerly awaiting for this to happen at some point in time, is touched deeply emotionally by his gesture and accepts the proposal amidst the overwhelming tears of joy. They get married and lived happily ever after............????
Yes they do get married and they did live with each other, only for a while though. Slowly the excitement of meeting and being in each other’s company has vanished into thin air without a warning. As days progress to months something drastically different starts to occur , instead of enjoying each other’s company they start enjoying television programmes better and instead of going out with each other they now go out with their friends. As the mounting months give way to the year something dramatically different has started taking place, Susan finds a number of Craig’s habits as extremely repulsive and Craig feels that Susan is intolerably nagging and complaining continuously. The same time which used to fly away and vanish in each other’s presence now seems to have come to a standstill. Everyday is the same heavy drag of nagging, arguing, complaining and then repeating the same cycle afresh the next day with seemingly new agendas.
And then the unthinkable, yet ironically, inevitable happens. They break up.... why???
Because Susan is convinced that Craig is cheating her based on certain circumstantial and situational extrapolations she vehemently pours her wrath on him one night not willing to listen to or give the chance for any explanation. Interestingly Craig is not bothered to give any (explanation) either. He has no reason or interest now to hang on to Susan any further. What follows are nothing but bitter law suits and ugly mudslinging allegations sessions on the days of court hearing.
So what went wrong? And where did it go wrong?
“Conversion of a feeling generated in innate intelligence to a mere memory or idea in the format of words and labels of social intelligence”.
So what’s wrong with that? And what has it got to do with relationships?
Susan meets Craig for the first time and somewhere amidst there exciting conversation there occurs one eye contact and she is swept off her feet, a wonderful experience dawns upon her being!!!!!!
Moments later she snaps out of her personal bliss zone and returns to the normalcy of the mundane reality. Now her mind (social intelligence) has kicked into action “this is it......... this is LOVE” “this is what you have been looking for all your life!!!!!!!!” Excitement grips her. This is an Excitement of being in love mixed with the excitement of uncertainty. She is unable to be at rest, she is constantly stormed by “does he love me too?” or “does he not”. All is this is very unlike the soothing and joyous experience she had had upon her first meeting but it is exciting and unrelenting none the less. Day in and day out she figures out ingenious new ways to strike a conversation with Craig and amidst the conversation she is busy scrutinising each and every word and gesture of his to find a clue to the two bothersome duo in her mind “does he love me too?” or “does he not”. As days pass by Craig seems to be resigning into Susan’s persistence and not exactly on a particular day or date but somewhere with indistinct boundaries of date and time they both slowly realize a mutual liking exists between the two. So now Susan gets a sort of confirmation (an indirect one through extrapolation of Craig’s behaviour and by reading between the lines) that Craig also likes her and Craig on the other hand finds a number of characteristics of Susan very affable. So he too is declaring this phenomenon as LOVE to himself.
Now the state of affairs is quiet a pleasing one, the tormenting excitement of “does he love me too?” or “does he not” has been replaced by sense of a more relaxed longing to meet Craig often ,within Susan, and Craig’s doubts and dilemmas about “is she the one?” have given way to “there cannot be any one better”. The eagerly awaited rendezvous, the excitement of meeting each other, stealing glances, the endless exchange of innumerable words, time just evaporating away in each other’s company............... Oh this is bliss..........
And finally it happens; Craig proposes and does so with a genuine style and flair. Susan, who of course has been expecting and eagerly awaiting for this to happen at some point in time, is touched deeply emotionally by his gesture and accepts the proposal amidst the overwhelming tears of joy. They get married and lived happily ever after............????
Yes they do get married and they did live with each other, only for a while though. Slowly the excitement of meeting and being in each other’s company has vanished into thin air without a warning. As days progress to months something drastically different starts to occur , instead of enjoying each other’s company they start enjoying television programmes better and instead of going out with each other they now go out with their friends. As the mounting months give way to the year something dramatically different has started taking place, Susan finds a number of Craig’s habits as extremely repulsive and Craig feels that Susan is intolerably nagging and complaining continuously. The same time which used to fly away and vanish in each other’s presence now seems to have come to a standstill. Everyday is the same heavy drag of nagging, arguing, complaining and then repeating the same cycle afresh the next day with seemingly new agendas.
And then the unthinkable, yet ironically, inevitable happens. They break up.... why???
Because Susan is convinced that Craig is cheating her based on certain circumstantial and situational extrapolations she vehemently pours her wrath on him one night not willing to listen to or give the chance for any explanation. Interestingly Craig is not bothered to give any (explanation) either. He has no reason or interest now to hang on to Susan any further. What follows are nothing but bitter law suits and ugly mudslinging allegations sessions on the days of court hearing.
So what went wrong? And where did it go wrong?
