Again the same mistake “Conversion of a feeling generated in innate intelligence to a mere memory or idea in the format of words and labels of social intelligence”. But there is more to it than just this alone when relationships are concerned.
Remember the story about a king who prays to god for a boon that whatever he touches should turn to gold. Then he turns his entire beautiful garden into lifeless gold and rejoices in the fulfillment of his madness for money. In his excitement to show the miraculous feats he had achieved while his daughter and wife were asleep he rushed to their room. In the feverish excitement and forgetfulness of his newly obtained boon he shook both his wife and daughter to wake them up and in the process with his “MIDAS TOUCH” turned them into gold too. The story goes on to describe the continued suffering of the king because he is unable to eat or even drink since whatever he touches turns to gold...............
Well sadly we too have blessed (rather cursed) ourselves with the “MENTAL MIDAS TOUCH”.
We are always busy converting the present moment into a GOLDEN MEMORY; we are busy creating beautiful archives of our lives to be presented to ourselves and people around us at a later date that is precisely the reason why we are busy clicking away photos at the sites of breathtaking natural beauties and wondrous monuments instead of enjoying the moment itself then and there. This is on a gross physical plane on a more subtle mental level we do a similar thing. Like the king we too are driven by a kind of greed but this greed is a bit different it is the greed for happiness instead of just gold (we want gold too but happiness is an absolute must). So we too are busy en-robing the people around us, people whom we claim to love, into golden memories with are “MENTAL MIDAS TOUCH”.
So what happens is that we pick and choose the finest moments we had had with that person (whom we claim to love) edit and further refine those moments to suit our fantasy about the ideal person/partner by omitting the events that do not conform to our liking and exaggerating those that we cherish and freeze that living person in a GOLDEN IDEA OR MEMORY about him. A living person is reduced to a dead memory. And from here begin the endless fallacies.
Please understand that the GOLDEN MEMORY drafted about the other person is driven by our own greed to obtain and sustain happiness in our lives via his/her means and this so called golden memory is mostly our own fantasy about the person and only partly (if at all) reality imposed on him/her by us.
This is an act of selfishness driven by the greed of attaining and sustaining happiness for our own selves. But one of utter foolishness too, like the king whose greed for gold leaves him with nothing but suffering and misery within himself and gold on the outside we too are left with beautiful ideas and memories within our head and starkly contradictory events of reality on the outside. We are left feeling cheated, used and miserable. But the entire mistake like the king is ours..................
