So what exactly happened at the sunset view point? And how does a similar phenomenon occur in every aspect of our lives including relationships?
Well............ the phenomenon that happened at the sunset view point is called “LABELED AND LEFT OUT”. So what is this “labeled and left out” phenomenon?
To understand this phenomenon we need to make a revolutionary shift in our basic understanding of life as a whole itself!!!!!!!!!!!!
All are lives we have been endlessly deluded with the idea that happiness lies somewhere outside of us. It is there in achieving great marks/grades in the exams, it is there in going to great universities and pursuing the fanciest of courses, it is there in having the most beautiful/handsome girl/boy as your girlfriend/boyfriend, it is there in having a “cool” group of friends to hang out with, it is there in getting a job with the fattest pay check, it is there in having a perfect man/woman as your husband/wife ...........................the list is endless and it does not stop even at the funeral pyre or the burial ground because there are pre-defined criterion of a good death and how to attain a perfect after life too!!!!!!!!!!
So all our lives we just keep striving helplessly and obviously without a choice to attain all these pre-determined criterion's of a “GOOD LIFE” without even reflecting even once over its reality. Each one of us has surely crossed some of the above mentioned marks, or fulfilled the pre-determined criterion's, of a “GOOD LIFE”. Let us at first take a good, honest, a critically analytical and a totally unbiased look at own lives. Are we living the promised “GOOD LIFE”?
Yes of course there have been moments of celebration upon attaining the gold medal, the promotion, the best job offer, the perfect life partner etc...... But at what price?
364 days were spent with the waxing and waning botheration about the 365th day of result announcement, 364 days were spent with a constant irritation and worry about the impending promotion on the 365th day, 364 days were spent with the crest and trough of faith and doubt about the great job offer etc.........our entire lives were reduced to just one background thought of a constant scuffle between two thoughts “will it happen?” (Our dream coming true) or “will it not”. If it did (that is we did succeed in attaining what we wanted to) then how long did the exhilaration last? A week? A month? A month is probably too much to ask for!!!!! As soon as we attained one landmark on our laid out road to “GOOD LIFE” our mind was already off to the other landmark. Sometimes it wasn’t even there to celebrate the achievement. No sooner did we get our gold medal for graduation and the mind was already brooding over great jobs and hefty pay checks it wasn’t even there at the awards ceremony!!!
So we clearly see that we are running after a “mirage of lasting happiness” that only goes further and further away (in time, as in the future, and in newer achievements) from us the more we chase or try to come near it.
