THE CHAIN OF EVENTS, continued

....Now the social intelligence comes up with the most diabolical tricks from its armory. As time goes on and Susan spends more and more time with Craig, social intelligence deems Craig as “FAMILIAR” having done that it declares Craig and all experiences related to him as its sovereign domain and shuts all doors out for a possible being to being connection between the two via innate intelligence. The social intelligence does not stop at that it labels the relationship as love, creates a love folder and starts storing memories. This is where it commits another blunder, it then goes on indiscriminately storing all sorts of contradictory memories in the folder dubiously named LOVE eventually all the data from “THIS IS WRONG, IT SHOULD NOT BE HAPPENING LIKE THIS” folder, all the “NEGATIVE DEVIATIONS”, are mutually shared in the love folder too.
It become like a jar in the kitchen labeled “sugar”. To begin with there had been some sugar in the jar but when it got over the lady of the house found it more convenient to store salt in this jar and when salt was finished she put an entire pack of newly opened chilli powder in the jar since no other empty container was available at that time. But throughout the chain of these incidents the jar has been bearing the label “sugar” on it and on numerous occasions the lady has put salt in the coffee (fooled by the label) and chilli powder in the deserts spoiling the whole thing but still not taking the lesson.
That just by labeling the jar as “sugar” it would not automatically start storing sugar. It can only contain what we put in it. So when the sugar in is running low or is about to get over it has to be replaced with more sugar and not salt and chillies. This will require both alertness and constant effort.
Alertness to always keep a check as to what is happening now? We may have been very happy in the past (1, 2 or 5 years ago) but are we happy now?
To keep a check that the jar of relationships is just labeled as “love” or it contains love too and that the love content of the jar (relationship) is increasing, decreasing or has remained the same. To keep a check if love is not coming out of the jar of a particular relationship then what has been stored now in the jar of this relationship of late in place of love.
It will require a lot of alertness and willingness to find the “incorrect item” (anger, jealousy, doubt etc...) filling up the jar (relationship) labeled as LOVE.
Surely it will be a lot of effort to remove the incorrect items (anger, jealousy, doubt, mistrust, irritation etc...) and again replace them with LOVE.
This makes us realize that life is a constantly flowing stream of change and the rigid and unchanging “golden memories” and “incorrect labels” only add to the confusion and misery already pervading our lives and fail despondently in fulfilling their false promises of happiness and satisfaction.
We draw two lessons and also are faced with a few new questions.
Two lessons drawn are
I. All relationships (family, friends, lovers each and every relationship without any exception) require a constant and honest reassessment of their current condition and then accordingly need to be taken up for servicing or a total overhaul as deemed fit by the assessment requirements.
II. This process requires three essential components, WILLINGNESS, ALERTNESS are CLARITY.

It also leaves us with the question as to what are these magical ingredients (willingness, alertness are clarity) that can make our lives so wonderful and worth living for?

THE CHAIN OF EVENTS

Susan meets Craig for the first time and for a moment sinks into her innate intelligence. This slipping into innate intelligence may be due to Craig’s enchanting behavior, may be due a sense of relaxation & relief (since exam results had been declared the same afternoon and she had cleared the exams along with a few others), may be accidental, may be due to the ambiance....... there are “N” number of probable reasons and one can never know for sure what made it happen but the bottom line is that on that evening at that party during her conversation with Craig it happened. Now the innate intelligence is the storehouse of all the positivity and goodness in our lives, the moment she slips into it like a flash everything change, everything appears so beautiful, so fresh, so alive and like a pleasant breeze this phenomenon just sweeps Susan (who is now feeling her existence as light as a feather) off her feet. She is experiencing profound SILENCE, the surroundings are merging into each other with indistinct boundaries and amidst this pleasant experience she is with Craig. So Susan sinks into her innate intelligence and COINCIDENTALLY it happens during her conversation with Craig.
Now begins the fundamental mistake. As soon as she reverts to her social intelligence (words and mind stuff) there is an immediate recognition of the pleasant experience she had gone through. “Conversion of a feeling generated in innate intelligence to a mere memory or idea in the format of words and labels of social intelligence” has occurred. But now the social intelligence will not rest, it is like the tiger that has tasted fresh blood.
The social intelligence which is totally unaware of the existence or the reality of innate intelligence immediately gets busy to find out the cause behind the pleasant experience she had had. Craig is identified as the obvious cause for the sense of elation and pleasantness and this precisely is the fundamental error.
“Identification of outer world objects, persons and situations as the cause of happiness which actually was generated within one’s very own self (within one’s own innate intelligence) by the social intelligence”.
Now the greed to obtain and sustain happiness via media Craig takes over Susan and it will keep her restless until she gets enough and more proof, a sought of guarantee, that her new found source of happiness (in this case Craig) would continue to be with her forever. This precisely is the cause for all the worry and excitement initially, “that whether or not this source of happiness would continue to be with me?”
Once Craig hints at his approval then this question (“that whether or not this source of happiness would continue to be with me?”) gets answered and a sense of settlement, relaxation and calm prevails all of a sudden this again pushes her back into her innate intelligence refreshing her and making her feel pleasant and now she comes out even more convinced that Craig is the cause to her happiness and her greed to obtain and sustain this happiness takes firm roots within her. Now she will become possessive and extremely so, since she sees Craig as a resource of her happiness and is haunted by the fear of losing him.
So she eagerly waits to convert this “holiday home of sorts” relationship of theirs where there is a lot of freedom for both individuals especially Craig who is still not completely committed into an “impenetrable castle” of marriage. All this is being done only to ensure that her source of happiness is ensured to stay with her. So when Craig proposes then there is no time to think or wait she takes a plunge she had been so eagerly waiting to.............

THE MIDAS TOUCH, continued

Once we successfully convert a living person into a dead memory we have opened the Pandora’s Box for ourselves. Firstly this golden memory is chiefly composed of nothing but our fantasies about how a person should be (be it husband, wife, friend, brother, in-laws etc...) and partly of edited reality which we have chosen and handpicked to corroborate our pre-existing ideas about them. Secondly no living person can be frozen and reduced to a bunch of dead memories. We had seen in our discussion on the cosmic laws, the four principle forces of nature CREATION, MAINTENANCE, CONSTANT CHANGE (EVOLUTION) and REJUVENATION (DEATH) are busy unrelentingly changing each and everything in the cosmos from galaxies, stars, rivers, rocks and mountains to trees, animals and humans. So how then is it ever possible for a living and ever changing person to continuously live up to a bunch of dead memories and ideas???
We do not understand this principle fallacy (mistake) of ours and then go about declaring that the other person used us, cheated us etc... It is we ourselves cheating us and nobody else. Please understand if a person is continuously able to live up to our golden memories and ideas about him / her then he/she too is dead and lifeless (not necessarily physically but emotionally and mentally) like the gold statues of the king, since living people will be vibrant and changing. If he / she is able to do that then be very sure that we, like the king Midas, have successfully reduced them to a figment of our fantasy and rendered them lifeless.
Instead of intelligently understanding the universal fact that “CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONSTANT THING, NOTHING ELSE CAN REMAIN CONSTANT” we hang on to our golden memories and instead of editing and updating them to the new changes we register “DEVIATIONS”.
Simply put we always cross-refer a person’s present behavior with our golden memory track record about him / her (in case of people whom we dislike it can be called as “stone sculptured memories” but they also function in the same way as the golden memories by not allowing us to see a person afresh in the present moment as he is) then we keep a score. Any behavioral pattern falling out of purview of the expected golden memory pattern is a “DEVIATION”. These deviations can be good or they can be bad.
Now comes the height of cunningness, driven by our greed to obtain and sustain happiness in our lives via the means of the other person we make decorative editions in our golden memory with the new “GOOD DEVIATIONS”, raising the bar of our expectations from the other person further and further higher. But we purposefully fail to do any addition or editing about the “NEGATIVE DEVIATIONS”. Instead we just keep a record of them (negative deviations) in the “THIS IS WRONG, IT SHOULD NOT BE HAPPENING LIKE THIS” folder. As time passes by more and more entries are registered into the “this is wrong, it should not be happening like this” folder and when we compare our golden memory with the current records in the “this is wrong, it should not be happening like this” folder we get overwhelmed and now we begin our drama of declaration of being cheated and used...... etc...
So we can clearly see that what we do in the name of love is nothing but fooling ourselves and choking the other person and then putting the blame on each other.

THE MIDAS TOUCH

Again the same mistake “Conversion of a feeling generated in innate intelligence to a mere memory or idea in the format of words and labels of social intelligence”. But there is more to it than just this alone when relationships are concerned.
Remember the story about a king who prays to god for a boon that whatever he touches should turn to gold. Then he turns his entire beautiful garden into lifeless gold and rejoices in the fulfillment of his madness for money. In his excitement to show the miraculous feats he had achieved while his daughter and wife were asleep he rushed to their room. In the feverish excitement and forgetfulness of his newly obtained boon he shook both his wife and daughter to wake them up and in the process with his “MIDAS TOUCH” turned them into gold too. The story goes on to describe the continued suffering of the king because he is unable to eat or even drink since whatever he touches turns to gold...............
Well sadly we too have blessed (rather cursed) ourselves with the “MENTAL MIDAS TOUCH”.
We are always busy converting the present moment into a GOLDEN MEMORY; we are busy creating beautiful archives of our lives to be presented to ourselves and people around us at a later date that is precisely the reason why we are busy clicking away photos at the sites of breathtaking natural beauties and wondrous monuments instead of enjoying the moment itself then and there. This is on a gross physical plane on a more subtle mental level we do a similar thing. Like the king we too are driven by a kind of greed but this greed is a bit different it is the greed for happiness instead of just gold (we want gold too but happiness is an absolute must). So we too are busy en-robing the people around us, people whom we claim to love, into golden memories with are “MENTAL MIDAS TOUCH”.
So what happens is that we pick and choose the finest moments we had had with that person (whom we claim to love) edit and further refine those moments to suit our fantasy about the ideal person/partner by omitting the events that do not conform to our liking and exaggerating those that we cherish and freeze that living person in a GOLDEN IDEA OR MEMORY about him. A living person is reduced to a dead memory. And from here begin the endless fallacies.
Please understand that the GOLDEN MEMORY drafted about the other person is driven by our own greed to obtain and sustain happiness in our lives via his/her means and this so called golden memory is mostly our own fantasy about the person and only partly (if at all) reality imposed on him/her by us.
This is an act of selfishness driven by the greed of attaining and sustaining happiness for our own selves. But one of utter foolishness too, like the king whose greed for gold leaves him with nothing but suffering and misery within himself and gold on the outside we too are left with beautiful ideas and memories within our head and starkly contradictory events of reality on the outside. We are left feeling cheated, used and miserable. But the entire mistake like the king is ours..................

THE INTRICATE MISTAKE, in relationships

So what exactly was the intricate mistake in all these situations?
“Conversion of a feeling generated in innate intelligence to a mere memory or idea in the format of words and labels of social intelligence”.
So what’s wrong with that? And what has it got to do with relationships?
Susan meets Craig for the first time and somewhere amidst there exciting conversation there occurs one eye contact and she is swept off her feet, a wonderful experience dawns upon her being!!!!!!
Moments later she snaps out of her personal bliss zone and returns to the normalcy of the mundane reality. Now her mind (social intelligence) has kicked into action “this is it......... this is LOVE” “this is what you have been looking for all your life!!!!!!!!” Excitement grips her. This is an Excitement of being in love mixed with the excitement of uncertainty. She is unable to be at rest, she is constantly stormed by “does he love me too?” or “does he not”. All is this is very unlike the soothing and joyous experience she had had upon her first meeting but it is exciting and unrelenting none the less. Day in and day out she figures out ingenious new ways to strike a conversation with Craig and amidst the conversation she is busy scrutinising each and every word and gesture of his to find a clue to the two bothersome duo in her mind “does he love me too?” or “does he not”. As days pass by Craig seems to be resigning into Susan’s persistence and not exactly on a particular day or date but somewhere with indistinct boundaries of date and time they both slowly realize a mutual liking exists between the two. So now Susan gets a sort of confirmation (an indirect one through extrapolation of Craig’s behaviour and by reading between the lines) that Craig also likes her and Craig on the other hand finds a number of characteristics of Susan very affable. So he too is declaring this phenomenon as LOVE to himself.
Now the state of affairs is quiet a pleasing one, the tormenting excitement of “does he love me too?” or “does he not” has been replaced by sense of a more relaxed longing to meet Craig often ,within Susan, and Craig’s doubts and dilemmas about “is she the one?” have given way to “there cannot be any one better”. The eagerly awaited rendezvous, the excitement of meeting each other, stealing glances, the endless exchange of innumerable words, time just evaporating away in each other’s company............... Oh this is bliss..........
And finally it happens; Craig proposes and does so with a genuine style and flair. Susan, who of course has been expecting and eagerly awaiting for this to happen at some point in time, is touched deeply emotionally by his gesture and accepts the proposal amidst the overwhelming tears of joy. They get married and lived happily ever after............????
Yes they do get married and they did live with each other, only for a while though. Slowly the excitement of meeting and being in each other’s company has vanished into thin air without a warning. As days progress to months something drastically different starts to occur , instead of enjoying each other’s company they start enjoying television programmes better and instead of going out with each other they now go out with their friends. As the mounting months give way to the year something dramatically different has started taking place, Susan finds a number of Craig’s habits as extremely repulsive and Craig feels that Susan is intolerably nagging and complaining continuously. The same time which used to fly away and vanish in each other’s presence now seems to have come to a standstill. Everyday is the same heavy drag of nagging, arguing, complaining and then repeating the same cycle afresh the next day with seemingly new agendas.
And then the unthinkable, yet ironically, inevitable happens. They break up.... why???
Because Susan is convinced that Craig is cheating her based on certain circumstantial and situational extrapolations she vehemently pours her wrath on him one night not willing to listen to or give the chance for any explanation. Interestingly Craig is not bothered to give any (explanation) either. He has no reason or interest now to hang on to Susan any further. What follows are nothing but bitter law suits and ugly mudslinging allegations sessions on the days of court hearing.
So what went wrong? And where did it go wrong?

THE RADICAL INSIGHT, the intricate mistake explained

So we do understand that we have been made to chase a “mirage of lasting happiness” until now. There are brief moments of pleasure in life but they are hugely interspersed with prolonged spells of boredom, anxiety, fear of failure and greed of greater success. In essence it’s an unfair deal, there is too much of investment in the form of actual effort, anxiety about the correctness and quality of effort, fear of failure to attain the requisite goal and occasional “run amok” system overrides in the form of greed for greater success completely capsizing our entire system just to get the return in the form of the aimed for goal and momentary whiff of pleasure. But all of this could be changed very easily if we were to agree upon single statement.
“HAPPINESS LIES WITHIN US AND NOT OUTSIDE OF US”.
“Oh come on, I have been hearing that lame statement all my life its absolutely meaningless”, “even if it had a meaning it does not apply to me, I am a person engaged neck deep in daily activities, I have bills to pay, I have a job to do, a promotion to achieve.......... how does it apply to me anyways?”. The mind (social intelligence) has entered its denial and rejection mode even before getting started. (There is a big reason behind this too, as to why our mind is responding in such a cynical fashion to this simple truth, we shall see that too, a bit later though).
Let us analyze this statement in reference to the “sunset view point”, what happened there?
The mind or the social intelligence drops for a while upon witnessing the magnificence and beauty of the sunset at the viewpoint in that perfectly picturesque setting due to two reasons, because it is an entirely new (first time) experience and there is no previous memory label available for the situation and hence it has to be lived “as it is”, secondly natural beauty and magnificence has a capability to override our social intelligence and directly connect with our innate intelligence (if we remain aware and cooperative).
So upon the first visit the social intelligence (that works exquisitely through the past in the form of experience, memory and labels) is dumbfounded by this entirely new experience, secondly the magnificence and grandeur of the natural beauty is easily able to override an already dumbfounded social intelligence and push us into our innate intelligence easily. In essence we live the experience through our innate intelligence and hence it is felt as such an intense and wonderful experience. But as we come to the view point again and again the intensity and the overall quality of our experience keeps declining. The natural beauty and magnificence has not changed, the natural experience is still the same BUT the “ONE WHO EXPERIENCES” has changed.
Now our social intelligence has already created a label for the place as “good”, it has the full backup of memory of past experience, it comes to the view point every time and updates itself with all the useless details as to “how many minutes it takes for complete sunset to occur”, “how many people generally come to witness the sunset”, “how many food stalls are there in and around the place” etc etc....... the endless list of useless facts and figures. So every time we come back to the view point the mind or the social intelligence becomes stronger and stronger about the place. So now not only does it NOT get dumbfounded immediately upon witnessing the picturesque panorama it also RESISTS the attempts of override by natural beauty to directly connect with our innate intelligence. And hence slowly keeps diluting our experience, until it declares the sunset view point as FAMILIAR. That is the death blow, since as soon as anything is declared FAMILIAR by social intelligence it becomes its “sovereign domain” and no interference of innate intelligence in it would be allowed,this is a part of “LABELED AND LEFT OUT” phenomenon (will be dealt with later in detail). Hence as soon as the social intelligence or the mind becomes familiar with a situation, place or person (or declares a situation or person familiar) there will be no room for innate intelligence there. So the same sunset view point which when lived through (although without our understanding of the phenomenon) the innate intelligence was such a splendidly profound experience at the first visit is now reduced to a boring drag of WAITING for the sun to quickly sink in and disappear within a few subsequent visits.
This is precisely the reason why we all love SURPRISES, since there are no memories for that situation and hence social intelligence gets is dumbfounded for those moments and hence lets us easily slip into innate intelligence for a few moments which seem to be so joyous and so pleasurable!!!!
Because “HAPPINESS LIES WITHIN US AND NOT OUTSIDE OF US”.

THE INTRICATE MISTAKE 2, continued

So what exactly happened at the sunset view point? And how does a similar phenomenon occur in every aspect of our lives including relationships?
Well............ the phenomenon that happened at the sunset view point is called “LABELED AND LEFT OUT”. So what is this “labeled and left out” phenomenon?
To understand this phenomenon we need to make a revolutionary shift in our basic understanding of life as a whole itself!!!!!!!!!!!!
All are lives we have been endlessly deluded with the idea that happiness lies somewhere outside of us. It is there in achieving great marks/grades in the exams, it is there in going to great universities and pursuing the fanciest of courses, it is there in having the most beautiful/handsome girl/boy as your girlfriend/boyfriend, it is there in having a “cool” group of friends to hang out with, it is there in getting a job with the fattest pay check, it is there in having a perfect man/woman as your husband/wife ...........................the list is endless and it does not stop even at the funeral pyre or the burial ground because there are pre-defined criterion of a good death and how to attain a perfect after life too!!!!!!!!!!
So all our lives we just keep striving helplessly and obviously without a choice to attain all these pre-determined criterion's of a “GOOD LIFE” without even reflecting even once over its reality. Each one of us has surely crossed some of the above mentioned marks, or fulfilled the pre-determined criterion's, of a “GOOD LIFE”. Let us at first take a good, honest, a critically analytical and a totally unbiased look at own lives. Are we living the promised “GOOD LIFE”?
Yes of course there have been moments of celebration upon attaining the gold medal, the promotion, the best job offer, the perfect life partner etc...... But at what price?
364 days were spent with the waxing and waning botheration about the 365th day of result announcement, 364 days were spent with a constant irritation and worry about the impending promotion on the 365th day, 364 days were spent with the crest and trough of faith and doubt about the great job offer etc.........our entire lives were reduced to just one background thought of a constant scuffle between two thoughts “will it happen?” (Our dream coming true) or “will it not”. If it did (that is we did succeed in attaining what we wanted to) then how long did the exhilaration last? A week? A month? A month is probably too much to ask for!!!!! As soon as we attained one landmark on our laid out road to “GOOD LIFE” our mind was already off to the other landmark. Sometimes it wasn’t even there to celebrate the achievement. No sooner did we get our gold medal for graduation and the mind was already brooding over great jobs and hefty pay checks it wasn’t even there at the awards ceremony!!!
So we clearly see that we are running after a “mirage of lasting happiness” that only goes further and further away (in time, as in the future, and in newer achievements) from us the more we chase or try to come near it.

THE INTRICATE MISTAKE 1

Suppose we go to a beautiful hill station with the perfect environment as we would like to. We happened to enjoy a marvelous sunset over there. As we witness the grandeur and magnificence of nature suddenly our inner chatter of unceasing words within our social intelligence ceases and we, almost by accident, are pushed into our deeper self (the innate intelligence) a genuine stir of feelings occurs in our innate intelligence as we connect with the nature around us, an “instantaneous awareness of the present moment as it happens”. By the time the sunset is over and we are ready to head back we have already converted our feelings into an experience, a gray (transition) zone between innate and social intelligence, by LABELING it as good (a good experience).if at this moment we remain silent and contained within ourselves we would be able to relive the experience and continue to experience similar, if not the same, joy we were experiencing during the actual event (sunset). But by the time we reach home (or the holiday resort) we have already transferred the whole incident from our innate intelligence to our social intelligence as a memory in the format of words “oh it was such a nice experience at the view point, the sunset between the hills, chirping of birds, the pleasant breeze etc......” etc... But this word document of memory has the attachment of experience tagged along with it. So every time we hear or think (words, word document) of that sunset view point automatically the linked attachment of experience also opens up in our system, without our knowledge of course, and fills our system up with that pleasant experience we had had. And here begins the fundamental error. Now we start believing that going to that view point will give us pleasure. We start visiting the view point often, but with every passing visit the intensity of our pleasurable experience seems to be reducing and yet we do come back with those same words “oh it was such a nice experience at the view point, the sunset between the hills, chirping of birds, the pleasant breeze etc......” reeling in our heads. Though we keep repeating these same words, just a layer underneath them (words) we are acutely aware of the fact that it does not feel the same, the intensity, the joy, the contentment all of it seems to be fading away. By now the visit to the view point has become more of a ritual, it is a drag and no joy or pleasant experience emerges out of it. Slowly we start feeling that the place is not that great after all, we don’t just stop at that we revisit our memory files and make corrections even there. Reducing or even falsifying the intensity of previous experiences, thus creating conflicts and contradictions within ourselves.
Well.... what just happened with the view point happens with almost everything in our life and sadly that everything includes our relationships too.

THE INSUFFICIENCY part 2

So where are we going with this discussion? what do we want to bring to light or highlight with all these examples???
“Words or languages are good at conveying a broad overview of things and facts (as in numbers, figures etc...) but they fail miserably when it comes to conveying, or replicating in the minds of others, minute and precise details of PEOPLE, SITUATIONS and EXPERIENCES”.
This is what we want to highlight, the insufficiency of the language to objectively and precisely convey details in the THREE most important domains of our lives that are “PEOPLE, SITUATIONS and EXPERIENCES”. We saw very clearly in the previous example how the discussion over Mr. Albert (people) generated a myriad variety of responses due to the different environments in which they had met (situations) leading to very distinctively different experiences. The example of the Boxer breed dog highlights the fact that no matter how much ever amount of factual data is pumped into the information provided the responses generated in each and every mind are markedly different and is based on their experiences in life.
EXPERIENCE is very closely related to feelings; in fact no experience whatsoever is possible without the involvement of one or the other faculty of feeling. A very subtle understanding exists at this juncture. An experience is generated, or takes birth, beyond the social intelligence and hence is beyond language or words. It (experience) is generated via media feelings. Feelings as we would remember are defined as “an INSTANTANEOUS AWARENESS generated within our system either in response to an outer world stimulus or situation or instantaneous awareness of our inner self WITHOUT the involvement of words or language”. During the moments of its occurrence there is only feeling alone an instantaneous awareness that’s all. After the passage of the moment the recollection of what had happened, the reminiscence of the past moment and the instantaneous awareness generated by it is what we call as an EXPERIENCE. So in essence an experience is a MEMORY of a feeling.
Memory as we would remember is defined as “an “INNER WORLD REPLICA” of an outer world incident”. This is very subtle and demands keen attention. Feelings generate experience which creates a memory. So in essence something beyond words or language happens within us in our innate intelligence (feelings), which remains in a gray zone between innate and social intelligence immediately after the passing of the incident and the feeling. Later in time all these events (feelings and experiences) which occurred in the innate intelligence get transferred and recorded for the purpose of archiving and ease of retrieval (since we mostly operate from social and rarely or only accidentally from innate intelligence) into the social intelligence in the form of words. And this is that critical juncture of a very fine understanding that when an event beyond words and language gets recorded in the form of words and language discrepancies are bound to occur. This is one of the foundation stones of all our confusions, mistakes and miseries

THE INSUFFICIENCY part 1

So now we understand that in our case we do a clear violation of the “felling – thought – verbalization – expression” pathway by starting at the wrong place that is thoughts instead of feelings. But that is only natural to us because we are stationed within our social intelligence and have lost all links with our innate intelligence which is the true birth place of feelings. So the language which was born to express the feelings in the first place has now overridden and overwritten its own creator, the feelings. Please understand that the language was born out of the FEELING of necessity to smoothly and effectively communicate but now language itself has filled, occupied and completely cloaked our entire system, so much so that its own creator (the feelings) is hard to find in our system. Language (a facet of social intelligence) has created a poor substitute, a cheap replica of feelings that is MOOD and we are repeatedly fooled by it into accepting moods as our feelings. But our previous discussion has made the difference between the two (moods & feelings) amply clear. Now when we communicate without feelings and purely through thoughts we are in desperate need of a “Common reference database” in the form of language we use but this “Common reference database” defined previously as “a generalized agreement upon MEANINGS IMPLIED by a variety of syllables, sounds, gestures and script symbols for the ease of conveying thoughts, ideas and feelings between individuals” has its limitations after a certain point. For example the words DOG refers to dogs as we all know the animal that we all know so well for its loyalty (and barking) but each one of us in our own minds and according to our own experience and likings is seeing a different breed of dog ( an Alsatian or a beagle or poodle etc...) . They are all dogs none the less but each starkly apart a poodle against a bull dog or a Chihuahua against a boxer are all worlds apart. This example aims to expose the inadequacy of language and its shortfall at its ability to convey details beyond a certain limit. One may argue that in the previous example if instead of the words DOG had a specific breed name been mentioned then each and every reader would have visualized the same thing. Wrong again!!!! Well even if the specific breed name was mentioned each one of us would only end up imagining (visualizing in our minds) that dog of that breed which we have seen and then again the differences between individual dogs of each breed are stark. So now we get downright ridiculous we say “a 7 years of age boxer dog of 80 pound weight, 24 inches height, with distinctive drooping jowls, a sleek, tight fitting coat that needs minimal attention.” Is everyone able to see that same boxer in their mind..............? Impossible. So now let us discuss another example but with a more human touch to it. A group of people are at a party and an elderly lady makes a reference about a common acquaintance of the group, Mr. Albert, who has yet not arrived and is delayed. One lady is all praises and says that Albert is such a charming and obedient person, she is his aunt. A young man present there just smiles (and does not speak) but holds a contrastingly opposite opinion, he feels that Mr. Albert is an overambitious, domineering and very intolerant man, he is Mr. Albert’s subordinate at the office. A young lady, one amongst the gathering, feels that Uncle Albert is the most charming and considerate person in the entire family, she is his niece. Another person just chuckles and nods his head in disagreement without saying a word but he feels that Mr. Albert is the most callous, insensitive and deceptive person on the planet, he is a customer to whom Mr. Albert sold a piece of property through his firm.
Please understand all the people at the party are talking about only one person, and they all know him well (unlike our unseen boxer breed,dog,example), yet the images, visualizations and feelings generated upon referral of that one name are so very different. At one end is love and respect and at the other are anger, disgust and hatred.

MOODS Vs FEELINGS

In the previous post, labeled THE PROCESS, we understood what exactly the natural pathway of expression was, “feeling – thought – verbalization – expression”. Equipped with the insight of “what should be” we are now in a better position to understand “what actually is happening” in our own lives.
To begin with, we have been totally cut off from our root that is our own innate intelligence. This has lead to a major blockade in our ability to relate to feelings with clarity. Hence we are living most if not all our lives with thoughts and very little if any with feelings. So the very start or the root of the “feeling – thought – verbalization – expression” process is disrupted since instead of beginning with feelings we begin with thoughts. Before we go any further let us also understand clearly that MOODS are different from FEELINGS.
Moods are nothing but PERSISTENT THOUGHTS, thoughts with a capability of prolonged stay in our system, they have the capacity to become the background upon which further new thoughts of a similar pattern emerge and hence linger on in our system. For example a thought comes to mind that “I should go to the market and buy some grocery”. This thought will fulfill itself and disappear once we visit the market and get the grocery. On the other hand, if we visit the market and find it closed for some reason then a sense of disappointment takes over our system. Now just like any other thought this sense of disappointment should also leave us as soon as we leave the closed market and head for home. But it does not; this sense of disappointment becomes a mood and sets off an entire pattern of thoughts based on it. Now thoughts start coming in “oh all the grocery is about to get over what will I do tomorrow?”, “what if the market remains closed tomorrow also?”, “what if the banks are also closed today and don’t receive my cheque payment, today was the last day of payment?”, “what if this and what if that......” a pattern of negativity and failure grips our system due an isolated and unrelated incidence triggering off a PERSISTENT THOUGHT. This is what we call a mood.
Feelings on the other hand are an INSTANTANEOUS AWARENESS generated within our system either in response to an outer world stimulus or situation or instantaneous awareness of our inner self WITHOUT the involvement of words or language. For example, when we see magnificent scenery, such as a beautiful sunrise or snow clad mountains etc..., we instantaneously feel a sense of joy within ourselves a sense of happiness pervades throughout our system. But please be very clear that this sense of pleasure or joy is independent of words or language, we just feel it. Only when asked “how was it?” or later just for the sake of expression and categorization of the event in our life for our own selves we reply using words such as joyful, pleasant etc... But at that instant of experiencing the moment the pleasure or joy did not come to us in the form of repetition of words such as joy, joy, joy or pleasure, pleasure, pleasure. It was just an instantaneous awareness generated within our system which was given a name, such as joy or pain etc..., at a later moment in time in order to classify and categorize the moment. This categorization and classification is the LABELING function of social intelligence which we have previously discussed.

THE PROCESS

THE PROCESS
To begin with we need to understand the entire process of “feeling – thought – verbalization – expression”. Though difficult to understand or believe in our present state and due persistent societal conditioning since birth, the first in this process are feelings. It was only when the feeling to (necessity must also be FELT) to communicate arose it became a thought which expressed itself in the form of a generalized agreement upon MEANINGS IMPLIED by a variety of syllables, sounds, gestures and script symbols so as to facilitate communication. This understanding, that it is the feelings that arise first, is very critical, vital and pivotal. Critical because it has the capacity to change our very state of being in a flash of a moment. Vital because it can be used a check mechanism (we will come to that later) and pivotal because it is this knowledge that can help us do the act of striking the fine balance between the inner and outer world.
We FEEL good in the company and presence of a person, this feeling is sensed by our social intelligence it quickly identifies the feeling as good in a flash of its thought process and sticks the label good on it and starts verbalizing by pumping up words like “I feel so good”, “it feels so nice being with you”, “I really enjoy your company” etc... Now this is a very crucial bit of understanding, that all these words of praise have been generated by social intelligence in response to a genuine stir of pleasant feelings in the innate intelligence hence these words are TRUE they are ALIVE. Now to express them or not to express them is totally up to us, whether we remain silent or communicate what we feel inside is voluntary but only this last bit, that is expression, is under our control rest of it has already happened involuntarily within us. These words, as mentioned in the example above, have followed the true and natural flow of “feeling – thought – verbalization – expression” and hence are true and have meaning .Now we can clearly see why this understanding is so critical, it defines TRUTH for an individual. We can gauge anything and everything we speak (and hear too) as truth or false. All we need to do is trace back their origin. If the words we have spoken have arisen within us from the very depth of our feelings they are true and if they have just been “thought – verbalized – expressed” by-passing their origin at the depths of feelings (may be due to some vested interests or ulterior motives) they are false. Similarly, but this demands a higher level of mental & emotional clarity as to the ability to operate from the innate intelligence and not get stuck with the social intelligence, we can gauge the truth in the words we hear. If the words that we have heard are allowed to percolate into our innate intelligence, and not just get blocked out at the level of social intelligence, then we would find that with a flash of feelings in an instant we would be aware if the words contain any truth or not. This is why this understanding of “feeling – thought – verbalization – expression” process is so vital, because it serves as a check mechanism. It can keep a constant check on the truthfulness of inflow and outflow of words within our “MIND-BODY ORGANISM”.
With this check mechanism installed into our “MIND-BODY ORGANISM” we can constantly be aware of the truth inside and outside of us. This awareness brings in immense clarity within us and hence automatically allows us to function better in the outer world.
But due to our continuous conditioning and a socio-cultural milieu that never teaches, expects or allows us to look into all these facets of our existential reality we have totally severed all our links with our innate intelligence and hence our true feelings. And this is how the “FROM COMMUNICATION TO CONFUSION” phenomenon takes birth.

COMMON REFERENCE DATABASE

So what exactly is this entity?
It is one of the rare paradoxes staring straight into the human eyes but without even earning their attention, leave alone perplexing them. It is a THE basic software necessary to run THE most vital necessity of society, the function which is not just a function but also the very foundation of any society, COMMUNICATION. Yes indeed, no society can exist without communication amongst its members. In fact it is only through communication that an understanding is arrived at, responsibilities are assigned, rights are explained and interaction to further propagate, innovate and improve a certain action, ideology or function are brought to being. In essence the very fabric of society is woven and brought to existence by the thread of communication.
What communication is to society, “Common reference database” is to communication. That is, “Common reference database” is the thread that has woven and brought into being the possibility of communication. It not only forms the very basis of communication it is the very fabric from which the dress of communication has been prepared. So how do we define “Common reference database”?
It would be defined as “a generalized agreement upon MEANINGS IMPLIED by a variety of syllables, sounds, gestures and script symbols for the ease of conveying thoughts, ideas and feelings between individuals”. Please understand that this definition may seem to be defining language and its script but it is not so it goes a step beyond, it explains the very origin of language.
By their very nature sounds, syllables and symbols have no meaning. For example if the shape of all the letters in front of our eyes were to be changed they would suddenly become meaningless patches of black and white to us but the new shape they have taken would continue to convey the same meaning and insight to some other person (as these shapes, or words do to us) because these new shapes are Japanese and the person reading them is conversant with it. Similarly these shapes and symbols (or words as we like to call them) though conveying a lot between us are no more than black patterns on white sheet (totally meaningless) to a person who does not understand English script.
Similarly with words, what sounds as meaningless gibberish to a person from one country is a complete language to others of a different country (example, Chinese to an Englishman). So we see clearly that neither the symbols of script nor the sounds of language have any inherent meaning its only our “generalized agreement upon MEANINGS IMPLIED by a variety of syllables, sounds, gestures and script symbols for the ease of conveying thoughts, ideas and feelings between individuals”, through conditioning (at home, in socio-cultural milieu) and education (at school and in the socio-cultural environment), that gives them their (the symbols of script and the sounds of language) attached meaning.
Here again we must emphasize the importance of this mutual agreement (upon MEANINGS IMPLIED by a variety of syllables, sounds, gestures and script symbols) since it is because of this agreement only languages could be developed and hence communication made possible between individuals. And as ever from here begins the interesting part, from the innate intelligence sprung out this innovative concept of agreeing upon MEANINGS IMPLIED by a variety of syllables, sounds, gestures and script symbols to facilitate communication but as always our social intelligence mishandled this wonderful tool completely. This forms the basis of “FROM COMMUNICATION TO CONFUSION” phenomenon.

THE REAL SECRET BEHIND ALL SUCCESS

So how then these great inventions, discoveries, ideologies and developments happen???
INNATE INTELLIGENCE. Please be very clear that anything that is genuinely genuine and worthwhile (or groundbreaking) has had its origin in the innate intelligence. If we were to look closely into the lives of all the great scientists, inventors and achievers we will find one thing in common. That is their detachment from social intelligence. If we look into their lives we would find that they were a subject of mockery and ridicule, they were labeled as dreamers, eccentrics and preachers of blasphemy but none of it deterred them from doing what they were doing. They did not require any social consensus or survey of belief in them. Their belief in themselves and what they were pursuing was enough. This was possible because they were operating from a totally different space of innate intelligence and NOT social intelligence. They did not let the imposed boundaries of pre-existing logic and knowledge curb their visions and dreams of new possibilities. They could hang on to their convictions even in the face of extreme adversity since their conviction was rooted in their innate intelligence (at least for their vision or dream, if not the entire personality). Once successful they get hounded and surrounded by the astounded and dazed social intelligence in the form of media, interviews and fan following all of whom are social intelligence centered and are just dumbfound at these new inventions, discoveries or achievements. Since anything new, fresh, creative or genuine is an impossibility for social intelligence which is nothing but a SEEMINGLY (not actually) LOGICAL CONCLUSION DRAWN FROM PAST applied to live the present and project the future.
So now we clearly understand that all great things that were worth achieving, whose achievement shaped our society of today and which makes our lives more convenient and better than the past were achieved through the rooting of individuals in their innate intelligence. Of course for the expression of all these great achievements social intelligence was necessary.
For example, by seeing the falling apple Newton could understand the concept of gravity in a flash within his innate intelligence but to express the same in a communicable, reproducible, lucid mathematical form he needed the help of social intelligence and a tiresome battery of experiments and equations. Similarly by imagining himself to be sitting on the edge of a light beam to the edge of the universe Albert Einstein could, in a flash of innate intelligence, grasp the entire concept of relativity but to be able to convey the same ideas to each and every individual in a uniformly consistent, objective, reproducible and lucid format he too had to utilize the social intelligence in the form of language, physics, mathematics etc...
So we understand that innate intelligence is the true propeller of our society towards development, inventions, discoveries and enormous achievements.
But how does it occur and the actual mechanics of the same shall be discussed when innate intelligence to us starts becoming a real reality more than the social intelligence itself and it does not just remain an empty word anymore.

THE REAL SPEARHEAD OF DEVELOPMENT

SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE is culturally confined, exclusive, imposing and rigid. If these were to be the hallmarks of social intelligence then how could we come so far, from hunting in the jungles to our voyages to mars and moon???
Social intelligence is purely reference based that is, “it is written like this in the text book don’t question it, are you smarter than the books?”, oh what a pity and irony those text books were also written by human beings like us and that which is valued as the ultimate cutting edge today goes into the dustbin or at the maximum appears in history books 50 years later, then why so much undue importance to the printed text?
It was social intelligence that persecuted Galileo Galilee when he discovered that earth was not the center of the universe. It was social intelligence that made the mockery of Orville and Wilbur Wright, the Wright brothers, when they started experimenting with the possibility of flight. It was social intelligence that had a hearty laugh at Albert Einstein when it (social intelligence) was unable to comprehend his concepts of mass energy conversion and his insights into relativity. So we see clearly that all that whatever we appreciate as great and ground breaking today was a matter of ridicule and scorn at its inception and social intelligence is to blame for all the ridicule and scorn.
Social intelligence is born in present out of past, that is it is the sum total of all our understandings from the entire past up till this moment. Social intelligence views the present moment through the looking glass of past information and projects the future as per its understanding of past. So there is no room for freshness, creativity, originality and innovation. Social intelligence is nothing but past lived in the present and projected into future, it like living a life in a continuous flashback mode. That precisely is the reason why we end up in “same situations different places, similar relations or relation dramas different faces”. If we were to closely and keenly analyze our lives we would be surprised to see that we are almost living a PATTERN in our lives in everything we do. From school through college to work place we are stuck in same performance levels (mediocre remains mediocre and failures remain failures). From adolescence to present day each and every relationship we have is running itself at a spinal level in a pattern we have created for it with no freshness, no liveliness, no excitement or joy at its core.
For example, certain people have a pattern of becoming familiar with the other person very quickly then entering into a very intense relationship soon the intensity dies off and so does their interest in the other person and they just sit and wait (unknowingly, subconsciously though) to find a reason an excuse to put some blame on the other person and walk out of the relation and the person.
Some people have the pattern of being extremely enthusiastic, positive, and optimistic and dedicated towards their NEW job. But as soon as the NEW job does NOT remain NEW anymore their enthusiasm turns into boredom, their positivity turns into fault finding with the system, their optimism becomes delusion of “overburden and exploitation” and their dedication soon turns into excuses and lethargy.
We too like the people exemplified above have a pattern in each and every aspect of our life (we may have identified it or may not have) and we religiously and dutifully continue to live it even without our knowledge because we choose to live by the staleness of social intelligence.
Social intelligence is nothing but a SEEMINGLY (not actually) LOGICAL CONCLUSION DRAWN FROM PAST applied to live the present and project the future. That is why no innovation, no creativity, no discovery or invention is possible by social intelligence since all these have never happened (occurred) in the past and there are no logical ways, means or understanding available to accomplish the same.

WHO AM I?

SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE, yes this is the answer to this question that has intrigued humanity since eternity (who am I?) it is NOT a complete and absolute answer though. But at the same time it is a truly factual reply to the initiator of the question.
We as we are, we in our present state as we know and understand ourselves and the world around us are nothing more than a singular facet, a singular dimension of our multifaceted, multidimensional existence and that singular dimension (facet) is SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE.
This SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE is an implant into our multifaceted, multidimensional system from the society and due to our improper handling of it now it has become our singular dimension of existence. So we must understand that we have completely lost our individuality all that remains of us nothing but our social identity that is why we are in this constant need of social approval for anything and everything that we do or do not do. And this precisely is the answer to the question “But why do we do this, justifying our own discrepancies and in capabilities by falsely alleging the entire society to be in a similar status, condition, behavioural pattern or capability (or incapability) as ours???”.
Since we (as of now, in this present state of ours) are nothing more than the SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE software, imported and installed into our system of MIND-BODY ORGANISM by the society around us, we are in a constant and pressing need of approval by the society around us for anything and everything that we do or do not do. Just like an installed software repeatedly requests updates from its parent firm, we (social intelligence) also seek repeated confirmation and updating from our parent firm that is the society.
And that is precisely the reason why we justify all our discrepancies and in capabilities by furnishing false social statistics of generalizations such as EVERYBODY and NOBODY.
But what we need to understand here is that though living in a society as community has done a great lot of good to us in terms of providing us with our basic necessities such as food, water, sanitation, education, shelter, protection etc... our present state of development, advancement and continuing progress from hunters to farmers to organized kingdoms to modern day societies has got nothing to do with social intelligence other than its (modality of advancement and progress) mere expression!!!!!!!!!!!

SOME MORE CLARIFICATION

“But how do I know for sure if it is the end of journey for me or just the beginning?” an obvious question that springs up after the last discussion labeled “so near and yet so far”. Please understand this very question “but how do I know......” is a testament that we haven’t awakened in our INNATE INTELLIGENCE. If the person realizes that he is not his virtual self (internet avatar) he would automatically and simultaneously be aware of his real and virtual self, he would naturally and obviously handle both his identities with ease and without doubt. But if he were to be stuck with his virtual self just imagining, contemplating or dreaming about the possibility of a physical reality without actually realizing or awaking into it then all sorts of doubts and discrepancies to this theory would arise. Such as “if I am the body then why am I unable to be in total control of this virtual self?”, “if I am the body then why do I still feel hungry after having eaten so much food?”Etc...
So if this doubt, this question arises within us then we can rest assured that our journey is yet to begin.
The anticipation is palpable and excitement is only natural. We are finally going to begin for what we had been preparing since past 2 months, SELF INTEGRATION. But here again a word of caution becomes necessary. The caution, please understand, is not being given out of fear of any anticipation of ill effects or to generate fear and deterrence with regard to these insights and understandings rather it (caution) is being issued out of genuine concern.
A Genuine concern about the true, effective, really transforming and lasting APPLICATION of these insights into our lives instead of making them just another momentarily uplifting reading.
We will now take a look at a few more fine points of insight into our own modus operandi (modality of functioning). Consider the following, if a person is blind from birth there is no way he can be made to understand or feel the beauty of a sunrise or magnanimity of an ocean, it’s just impossible. It is so because he does not have the same “COMMON REFERENCE DATABASE” as ours.
Let first understand the concept of “common reference database”. Well, put simply it is a generalization of our likes, dislikes, preferences and believes, our entire experience of and with life on to the entire humanity or to our own socio-cultural milieu at least.
For example if a person is cornered lying he would immediately throw up “oh come on EVERYBODY lies it’s only a question of getting caught”. Ask an alcoholic and he will assure you that EVERYBODY on this planet can be put in three simple categories
1. Consuming alcohol in public and accepting the same
2. Consuming alcohol in privacy and denying it
3. Dying to consume alcohol but yet have been unable to
Ask a promiscuous person about his infidelity and he will also offer you a similar worldwide classification system. Ask a person caught taking bribe and you would be astounded by his belief in this “classifying the entire world into three categories” thing.
Even in our lives we do a similar thing, if we do not succeed at an exam or a project we immediately collect the references of all the people who had failed doing the same, we vouch for their (people who had failed) credentials and the unfairness and disrepute of the exam simultaneously.
If we shy away from a bigger cause or a social responsibility (like standing up against corrupt top management of a company or voicing our opinion against oppressive behavior of a teacher or professor) we urgently summon logical rationalizations such as “oh come on this is real life not a movie we can’t be opposing or going against the system NOBODY does that”.
If we closely examine all the above mentioned examples we will find one stark similarity in all of them and that is EVERYBODY and NOBODY. That is a generalization meant to blanket the entire human population or at least our own ambient socio-cultural environment.
But why do we do this, justifying our own discrepancies and in capabilities by falsely alleging the entire society to be in a similar status, condition, behavioral pattern or capability (or incapability) as ours???

THE MISNOMER

So before we embark upon our journey of “self integration” let us understand that in the absolute sense there is no destination “self integration”!!!!!!!!!
“Self integration” is actually a misnomer in true sense. Consider an idol which out of sheer neglect has been thrown into mud pit. Years after years layers after layers of mud accumulate and harden over it. What then needs to be done if we wanted to retrieve the idol from this seemingly unsightly, randomly shaped, huge and layered mass of hardened mud?
Hammering or chiseling out of all the layers of mud accumulated around it, that’s all!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Similarly we also due to our consistent neglect have accumulated innumerable layers of conditioning around our true self or innate intelligence. We seem so fractured, so disintegrated, so fragmented within our present selves because these conditioning's (mud) within our system (or rather over the beautiful idol of our true, innate self)) are layered. They are arranged in layers of time, layers of intensity of experience, layers of importance etc etc..... so we do not actually need to rearrange and integrate all this mud of conditioning over our system our true self. We just need to hammer and chisel them away!!!!!!!!!!!
The beautiful and innately integrated idol of our being would automatically come out, it would automatically shine through. Please understand all our hammering and chiseling has done nothing to create the idol it always was there as it is. The hammering and chiseling has just removed the innumerable layers of mud and dirt accumulated around the idol, that’s all.
A word of caution though, the end result is amazing, miraculous even. It’s like a person indiscriminately pounding with a hammer and a chisel on a seemingly unsightly, randomly shaped, huge and layered mass of hardened mud and suddenly an intricately “carved to perfection” idol, a wondrous and marvelous piece of art appears from within it.
But let us also remember that the idol has resurfaced from that unsightly block of mud only after taking the blows of hammer and the cuts of the chisel. So we must understand that there is nothing to integrate; only consistent disintegration needs to be done to attain the automatically integrated and innately beautiful and wondrous state that we already have within ourselves but are unable to relate to due to the innumerable layers of social conditioning's around us.

SO NEAR & YET SO FAR

So now that it’s amply clear and the root cause of all our problems and sufferings has been found, “Forgetting our true self our INNATE INTELLIGENCE (/nature/self) and believing ourselves to be mere SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE”, the obvious solution is at hand, “REMEMBERING OUR TRUE INNATE SELF”................................................................................................................
Sadly though this simple solution is not such a simplicity anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks to our consistent, persistent and sole identification with our SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE we have totally incapacitated ourselves from being able to relate to or associate with our own INNATE INTELLIGENCE. INNATE INTELLIGENCE to us seems like a distant philosophical entity possessed by sages in Himalayas something that neither exists nor concerns us. And it is due to this handicap of ours we are being forced to take a long detour “so near & yet so far” seems so apt to this situation. We are at a grasps distance to finding the panacea to all the ailments of our lives and yet we are no where even close to getting it due our complete lack of ability to associate with our innate intelligence or so to say our imprisonment within our social intelligence.
It is our inability to be without our social intelligence even for a second that is forcing us to take such a long detour to find the final solution to a perfect living.
For those of us in whom the word INNATE intelligence strikes a chord, this scenario of being able to step out of our SOCIAL intelligence and live with our true innate self is a reality; the journey has come to an end for them. From here on these writings would have nothing more, nothing worthwhile to add unto you. You have dropped back to your source, just like the person realizing that he is not just his virtual self (INTERNET AVATAR) but a physical body and a mind of which the virtual self is just a psychological extension, and now you automatically will have the intelligence to do what is to be done, to know what is to be known and live the way you are supposed to live.
But for those of us to whom the words such as INNATE INTELLIGENCE, TRUE SELF etc are as alien as extraterrestrial life forms themselves (if they exist at all?) the journey is just about to begin!!!!!!!!!
We are at the brink of beginning a journey. A journey back to ourselves, our true selves. The self integration process is about to begin.............

THE ORIGINAL SIN continued

This example would amply clarify what we mean by “improper handling”.
Suppose we were to design a virtual self replica or what is popularly known as INTERNET AVATAR. We would make it the way we ourselves really want to be in the real world. Now suppose we engage ourselves the whole day and whole night in making this INTERNET AVATAR (virtual self replica) in attaining perfection for the INTERNET AVATAR and somehow get so lost into it that we start believing the INTERNET AVATAR as our real selves (seems too far fetched but just hang on a little while).
Now when we feel hungry we feed the INTERNET AVATAR with virtual food available in the virtual world, this gives momentary psychological relief due to our extremely strong sense of attachment of identity with this virtual self. But it will never subdue the hunger pangs of our real physical body. So the body again knocks us with hunger pangs. We get surprised because we had just had food (in the virtual world though). We again feed our virtual self in the virtual world (because of our total identification of identity with our virtual self and lack of remembrance of our real physical self) and this time we stuff ourselves to the throat. This time again we obtain some more momentary psychological relief. But soon enough the real physical body throws up severe hunger pangs that twist our intestines and now we start getting frustrated we don’t know what to do, we feel “oh come on I just stuffed myself twice in past one hour how can I still be hungry?, there must be something wrong with me I must see a doctor”. Now the real problem begins, the more we try to find the solution to this problem in the virtual world the more frustrated and depressed we would get because no solution would be forthcoming with lasting results. And our hunger of the real physical body would only keep getting worse.
Though very unrealistic and humorous SHOCKINGLY it is our own TRUE story.
This is what is meant by “improper handling” of SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE. We have lost ourselves in it so much so that it has become our whole identity, our entire life and instead of we using it (SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE ), it (SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE) is using us.
Forgetting our true self our INNATE INTELLIGENCE (/nature/self) and believing ourselves to be mere SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE alone is the ORIGINAL SIN the root of all our troubles, complexities and sufferings.