THE ORIGINAL SIN continued

This example would amply clarify what we mean by “improper handling”.
Suppose we were to design a virtual self replica or what is popularly known as INTERNET AVATAR. We would make it the way we ourselves really want to be in the real world. Now suppose we engage ourselves the whole day and whole night in making this INTERNET AVATAR (virtual self replica) in attaining perfection for the INTERNET AVATAR and somehow get so lost into it that we start believing the INTERNET AVATAR as our real selves (seems too far fetched but just hang on a little while).
Now when we feel hungry we feed the INTERNET AVATAR with virtual food available in the virtual world, this gives momentary psychological relief due to our extremely strong sense of attachment of identity with this virtual self. But it will never subdue the hunger pangs of our real physical body. So the body again knocks us with hunger pangs. We get surprised because we had just had food (in the virtual world though). We again feed our virtual self in the virtual world (because of our total identification of identity with our virtual self and lack of remembrance of our real physical self) and this time we stuff ourselves to the throat. This time again we obtain some more momentary psychological relief. But soon enough the real physical body throws up severe hunger pangs that twist our intestines and now we start getting frustrated we don’t know what to do, we feel “oh come on I just stuffed myself twice in past one hour how can I still be hungry?, there must be something wrong with me I must see a doctor”. Now the real problem begins, the more we try to find the solution to this problem in the virtual world the more frustrated and depressed we would get because no solution would be forthcoming with lasting results. And our hunger of the real physical body would only keep getting worse.
Though very unrealistic and humorous SHOCKINGLY it is our own TRUE story.
This is what is meant by “improper handling” of SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE. We have lost ourselves in it so much so that it has become our whole identity, our entire life and instead of we using it (SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE ), it (SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE) is using us.
Forgetting our true self our INNATE INTELLIGENCE (/nature/self) and believing ourselves to be mere SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE alone is the ORIGINAL SIN the root of all our troubles, complexities and sufferings.

THE ORIGINAL SIN

As the heading proclaims now we will enter into the domain of understanding “what went wrong and where?”
After expanding our understanding of functioning of society and its direct effect on our own way of functioning, living and conducting our lives we might find SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE implanted within our system to be a distasteful entity an unwelcome guest because of its shrewd, selfish, business like nature infiltrating every nook and corner of our life with or without our knowledge.
But please understand that the SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE is not at fault it is we ourselves who are to blame for this present condition of ours. It is our improper handling that is to be blamed. Desserts are desserts they cannot be had for starters and main course. If taken in such a fashion it will only cause suffocation and nausea. Similarly SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE is also a dessert to be added at the end of the main course of our INNATE INTELLIGENCE. But we have been outrageously abusive with it we have had it for breakfast, lunch, supper and dinner, with tea, coffee and juice for all portions and courses of our existential meal.
That is instead of using social intelligence we are being used by the social intelligence. Let us clarify this statement.
Memory & social etiquette's. Understanding, adoption and living of social customs, traditions, relations and the shining jewel in the crown, language (to help us express ourselves to the outer world, to interact, to communicate and express ourselves) are all the various facets of SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE. Also the fact that our staying together as a society has allowed each and every one of us to specialize in one particular field and bring out the best from it for the common good and benefit of all since time immemorial and hence has not only aided but acted as a catalyst to our scientific, economic, medical, technological and infrastructural betterment and constant development which was an impossibility for individuals to achieve without the security, food, shelter and resources provided by the society to them.
So we must clearly reaffirm the importance and contribution of society and social intelligence in our lives before we go any further.

DEEPER INTO THE SOCIO-MENTAL SETUP

Now we have come to understand that we are constantly, sometimes obviously, clearly and consciously and at other times subtly, finely and subconsciously, judging people around us by two primary criterions
I. Is he/she of any direct or indirect help/utility to me (it may be physical, mental, emotional, financial, social etc...)
II. What is this persons money making potential or capacity or his monetary worth.
Please understand very clearly that this is the way we function in each and every relationship and aspect of our life no matter how unpalatable this fact may appear.
The mind quickly jumps and says “oh come on this is nonsense I love my parents selflessly” or “I love my children without judging them” or “I love my husband or wife without any reasoning”.
Children love parents who listen to them and fulfil their demands and wishes. Parents love children who become the extension of their life their desires. One issue of a no to a love marriage from parents or taking a child wanting to take arts instead of science or choosing to become an engineer instead of a doctor or an issue of settling abroad is good enough to expose the flourishing forest of unsaid expectations in a moment between children and parents.
One incident of failing to live up to the norms or standards set up between them vehemently exposes the fallacies of lovers amongst themselves.
Please understand that we have become a true reflection of the society we live in.
Society always asks “WHAT DO I GET OUT OF IT?” A Doctor gives assurance of care and treatment, an engineer ensures constant progress towards development and making our lives easier and more convenient, an architect ensures infrastructure development, an accountant comes in handy to handle the most important COMMODITY of our time, MONEY, hence all these and likes of these are of direct help to us (besides their money making potential also) and hence these professions themselves enjoy respect irrespective of the character and nature of the person involved with them, at least prima facie.
Entrepreneurs, Big businessmen, Industrialists etc are respected for their shear monetary worth (besides their capability to help in the form of employment generation, charity etc...).
Even a scientist for that matter is not entitled to our respect till he has patents, inventions or awards (recognizing the utility of his discoveries or inventions) to boast of in his social showcase.
On the other hand an unemployed music composer, singer, actor or a player etc would be looked down upon since neither are they of any direct or indirect help to the society around them nor do they have any monetary worth. But as soon as they hit it big time (singers, actors, players etc...), please understand that these are the same people who were being condemned till yesterday for the lack of their social contribution and credibility, these people would be idealized, they will becomes icons etc... Only because of their associated monetary worth (and the tag along fame).

WHAT WENT WRONG? Continued...

The societies we live in across the nations and continents, beyond the barriers of race, creed or colour throughout the planet irrespective of their geographical location have laid their foundation on one principle question “WHAT DO I GET OUT OF IT?” .That is this question “WHAT DO I GET OUT OF IT?” is the principle guiding force or the intention behind the action or the motivation behind a decision. And this is precisely from where the two gigantic decision makers of our own lives are born namely UTILITY & PURPOSE.
Let us exemplify the situation. Please understand that from its very inception societies across time, location and civilizations have been a “CONSORTIUM OF CONVENIENCE” (let us analyze from the very beginning the birth and development of the society) that is, “I will do the farming, you do cloth making, he will take care of pottery, she will take care of the cattle rearing, these guys will go for hunting etc etc...”. One man or one family alone cannot do all these diverse functions but the society or the “CONSORTIUM OF CONVENIENCE” ensures that every person is put to some use in the social fabric to achieve in effect convenience for all. So if a person is farming he is contributing food to the society he is worthy of respect because there is no life without food, if a person is hunting or rearing cattle he is again providing for THE MOST valuable commodity to the society of those times & he is worthy of all the praise and respect. But if a person is engaged in pottery making he is not providing the society with THE MOST essential commodity of that time that is FOOD and hence is not worthy of a similar cadre of respect.
With time farming became common place and food was not as big a worry as it used to be (in early and developmental period of human society) man also acquired the art of manipulating its surroundings by making canals and irrigation networks. Hence farming is no more DIFFICULT or HARD TO ACHIEVE but as the societies grew so did their greed of amassing resources and exploiting their neighbours and hence SOCIAL SECURITY became a matter of concern. From that era arose the WARRIORS who gave to the society of that time THE MOST essential commodity then SOCIAL SECURITY and hence archers, sword fighters, warriors and thus KINGS arose from them who took the position of most respected from the hunters and the farmers.
With time we evolved into a social structure of present day where food and social security (and other basic necessities) could be taken for granted provided one had the MEANS to obtain them and that MEANS to obtaining everything right from basic necessities of food, clothing and shelter to the absurd superfluities of designer wear and 5 star cocktails became MONEY. And hence farmers, hunters, soldiers and kings all were moved aside and the new mantle of respect and awe was given to money or the people who could make money (and to some extent to people who directly contributed to our well being and could play a vital role in times of dire needs e.g. Doctors Etc...).
So now it is easy for us to understand that why Surgeon’s, a CEO’s and entrepreneurs are looked unto with respect and an unemployed youth or a person doing a PhD in Sanskrit is looked down upon because neither is going to be directly helpful to us (like a doctor etc...) nor either has the money making capacity of an entrepreneur or a CEO.

WHAT WENT WRONG?

So now we come back to ourselves as individuals and get busy working on us to get answers and enjoy solutions.
INNATE INTELLIGENCE is pure and perfect by its very nature and SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE is an absolute necessity!!! Then from where has this pile of negativity garbage arisen in us???
So what went wrong? , where did it go wrong? And how did it go wrong?
The answer to “where did it go wrong?” is pretty straight forward and simple. It obviously went wrong in the SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE division of ours since INNATE INTELLIGENCE is pure and incorruptible by its very nature.
Memory & social etiquette's. Understanding, adoption and living of social customs and traditions and the shining jewel in the crown, language (to help us express ourselves to the outer world, to interact, to communicate and express ourselves) are all the various facets of SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE. Such is the diversity, necessity and multiplicity of function of social intelligence that all we know and experience about ourselves and the world around us is only via media social intelligence. But social intelligence, as we have now come to understand, is an implanted accessory into the MIND-BODY ORGANISAM of ours to enable us to fit into the social set up structure. Hence it is oriented towards moulding and fitting us into the social set up rather than taking care of our own personal growth and fulfilment. That is SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE is an accessory implanted into our MIND-BODY ORGANISAM to make us socially useful and productive, to ensure the welfare and sustenance of society, to ensure an orderly and smooth functioning of the society.
Please understand INNATE INTELLIGENCE is yours (individual based) and works for you, for your fulfilment as opposed to the (implanted) SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE which is of the society and works for the society (community based). Let us be very clear that there is nothing wrong with the SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE itself, it is an important tool for social coexistence, mutual harmony, beautiful relationships etc... What is wrong is the importance given to it and its handling by us.
A few examples would help us dissect separate and delineate the differences between the seemingly closely intermingled intelligentsia's (INNATE & SOCIAL).
If we were to meet a doctor, an engineer or a businessman we look up to them with respect on the other hand we look down upon an unemployed youth, we look down upon people pursuing non-professional streams of education.
Why? Why should it be so?
An unemployed youth is not taking anything from us, a person pursuing a PhD in Sanskrit is not asking us pay for his living expenses then why do we look down upon them?
Why don’t we look up to them with the same awe and respect as that of a Surgeon, a CEO or an entrepreneur?

BACK FROM THE INTERLUDE

So we have gone around the globe, for that matter the entire universe, and seen a number of basic, principle laws in action, various possibilities and definitions. But all this intergalactic cosmic wandering brings us back to our own planet and the pending (and yet unanswered) question of UTILITY & PURPOSE. The “what do I get out of reading and knowing all this?” “How does my life change by knowing all this mumbo-jumbo?” is still hankering around in our minds. Let us understand it in a step wise fashion.
If a child were to burn his hands with a matchstick fire and was told by his parents that “matchstick is dangerous it burns” ( instead of fire) then he will have repeated burning experiences sometimes with gas fire, sometime with coal fire, sometime with lantern fire etc etc... Till he gets burnt by every single type and variety of fire the potential for another accident (burning incident) is just waiting around the corner. Instead of being taught that “fire is dangerous it burns” he has been wrongly taught that “matchstick or candle or lantern is dangerous”. Just the right knowledge “fire is dangerous it burns” is enough; he need not even suffer a single experience of burning, to confer him the understanding to save himself from burns.
Similarly this basic knowledge, this insight into the functioning of the universe and our own selves becomes the right knowledge (like “fire is dangerous it burns”) incorporated in our system and hence saves us from an uncountable plenty of unpleasant experiences that could have come our way due to our own ignorance and lack of understanding of them (just like the incomplete and incorrect knowledge that “matchstick is dangerous it burns”, instead of fire).So herein lies the UTILITY of this knowledge.
The PURPOSE on the other hand is still better. When applied in our lives (and not just read and contemplated upon) it has the potential to open up an abundance of previously unknown and unheard of vistas of new possibilities in our own lives and with this “new found self” we would be free to challenge our boundaries and self-imposed limitations, chase new dreams and accomplish previously deemed impossible goals.

AVAILABILITY OF CHOICES

This new understanding about the cosmic blue print and its functioning in our “MIND-BODY ORGANISM” amply clarifies the two previously made statements (under the heading THE MORE OBVIOUS APPLICATION).
LIFE, AS IT IS, IS OUR OWN CHOICE.
AND
THERE IS A POSSIBILITY TO GO EITHER WAY EVERY SINGLE MOMENT
Let us put to test these two theorems in the more practical and real life of Susan who is suffering intensely after being cheated by Craig.
For this we would require to dissect the possible past of both (Susan & Craig) and then come back straightaway the present situation of heartbreak. Also noteworthy is the fact that we would be analyzing the situations and people from Susan’s perspective (who is a representative of our own self). So the possibility exists that Craig was not a very reliable or responsible person from the very beginning and Susan deliberately choose to ignore the hints and vibes from her INNATE INTELLIGENCE about him. May be due to some vested interests such as fulfillment of her ego upon being associated with Craig (who may have been the coolest kid on the block, so to say).in that case it is her OWN CHOICE that is making her suffer. If we choose play with fire we cannot complain when we get burns, getting burns is an inherent possibility of playing with fire it is understood without being spoken. Similarly cheating is an inherent prospect of a relationship with an infidel person. So it is Susan herself who is to blame for this situation of heartbreak and suffering today rather than Craig, since this was coming from day 1 of their relationship but she purposefully choose to turn a blind eye towards it because of involvement of “fulfilment of her ego”.(LIFE, AS IT IS, IS OUR OWN CHOICE).
Now there also exists another possibility, that Craig was a genuinely nice person when Susan first met him and this pleasantness of his drew Susan to him guided by her INNATE INTELLIGENCE and reception of good vibes. But somewhere down the line corruption occurred in his (Craig’s) inner world which culminated into today’s situation. Now it is totally up to Susan to either decide to forgive Craig for this isolated incidence of infidelity, forget this incident and move on with this relationship OR to dump him (Craig), forget this incident and move on in her life OR to continue hanging on to this incident by making a replica of it in her MEMORY and continue suffering incessantly, either with or without Craig in her life.
So life has given all these variety of options to Susan from being free of Craig and the suffering of the incident to hanging on to both (Craig & suffering) OR being with Craig and letting go of suffering etc... (THERE IS A POSSIBILITY TO GO EITHER WAY EVERY SINGLE MOMENT).
It is she who has to make a choice this moment and hence decide upon the nature, course and quality of the moments to follow (or the future).

ABUSE OF FREE WILL

Unlike any other thing or being in the universe (scientifically visible and known to us presently) we have been bestowed with the gift of FREE WILL which now in our irresponsible hands has become our own misgiving. Nothing in the universe has been bestowed with the capability or the option to interfere with the functioning of the four principle cosmic forces other than us and we have abused this power to its fullest.
The body is full and begs not to even be reminded of the word food but just because we have paid Rs 500 for the buffet we go on endlessly stuffing the body mercilessly.
The burning eyes demand some rest and sleep but we don’t heed to it at all we continue watching the late night movie or the cricket match.
Similarly events of the outer world touch and stir our inner world creating thoughts and their generic emotional responses. The event of present quickly slips into past, please understand it is not happening now. Say for example, boss takes away all the credit of our hard work or our work environment generates a disturbing negative emotional response in us. True, when that negative event of the outer world occurred it stirred our inner world and engendered negative responses in our inner world. But look at this closely that event happened a week or a month ago and we are still carrying it in our mind. The event is existent no more and nowhere but for our mind. We constantly abuse the principle force of MAINTENANCE with our FREE WILL and unnecessarily sustain the misery producing experience in our inner world. It becomes like an echo. Though the original outer world event which triggered this cascade of thought patterns and emotional responses is no more a PHYSICAL REALITY (it is gone, it is no more & has become a thing of past) we create its “INNER WORLD REPLICA” called MEMORY and reverberate the incidence in our inner world.
MEMORY is nothing but an “INNER WORLD REPLICA” of an outer world incident. (Memory is one of the components of SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE, how it gets corrupted and becomes a source of suffering would be discussed in further discussions). With this inner world replica we repeatedly relive the outer world incident and repeatedly generate the emotional responses associated with that incident.
ON A MORE JOVIAL NOTE :-)
A person may have abused and called us stupid only once but we, by the virtue of our memory, abuse & deem ourselves stupid at least over a 100 times by incessantly replaying the REPLICA of that outer world incident in our inner world. He says it, we prove it!!!!! :-). Who then is responsible for our suffering the person who abused us once or we who abused ourselves over a 100 times????
So now we understand that it is our irresponsible and abusive interference with the functioning of the cosmic forces that brings physical illness and mental suffering rather than the outer world incidences alone.

THE BIG PICTURE Macrocosmic...

The steps 2 and 3 from SORTING to EMOTIONAL RESPONSE are nothing but CREATION, the first of the four principle cosmic forces, in action in the inner world in response to an outer world event (cheating). We must understand though that the emotional response generated suffering, emotional outburst, anger etc... have not been created by the cosmic force of CREATION rather they have been generated (as seen in the previous discussion) with the help of Susan’s own mental-setup which is an inherent part of her SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE. The force of CREATION is universally and unconditionally available and at work in our inner world. Which part of the inner world gets to harness it the INNATE INTELLIGENCE or the SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE depends on the use or misuse of our FREE WILL. In the present scenario Susan, in her unawareness of working of the mind, has BY DEFAULT chosen her MENTAL-SETUP (a part of SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE) to harness the energy of the cosmic principle of creation. When we repeatedly and continuously use a particular faculty of our inner world it becomes our DEFAULT SETTING. That is unless we become consciously and intensely aware of what is going on inside us and exercise the power of FREE WILL within us and consciously choose to use or harness a different faculty of our inner world (for example innate intelligence instead of mental setup) the DEFAULT setting faculty would automatically and continuously be operating through us even without our knowledge. So now we clearly appreciate that though a pure cosmic force (CREATION) harnessed wrongly by the use (rather abuse) of our FREE WILL it has created negative emotion and experiences in us.
An analogy to make this phenomenon clearer, in a cinema theatre light is being projected from the projector on to the screen. If we were to place the film rolls containing beautiful sceneries of tulip gardens, mountains, sunrise etc then beautiful images would come to life on the screen but if we were to place film rolls containing ugly images of crime, war, violence etc detestable images would spring to life on the screen. Similarly the cosmic force of CREATION is the continuously switched on PROJECTOR LIGHT and the MENTAL FACULTIES (innate intelligence or the social intelligence etc) are the FILM ROLLS placed in front of it. Whatever the faculty we use in front of it so is the imagery of the experience generated within us.
Once created the thought (right from sorting to the emotional response) comes with its own power of MAINTENANCE that is its capability to hang around in our inner world. But it would not remain the same all through it would undergo CONSTANT CHANGE (EVOLUTION). With this constant change it would generate a myriad multitude of responses and emotions in our system. Finally the cosmic principle of DEATH (REJUVINATION) would come into action and remove the thought, its modifications and its emotional responses as well. That is why we say “TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS”. We must understand here that it is not the time that heals all the wounds rather the cosmic force of REJUVINATION that removes the old thought and its associated responses from our system to make way for fresh ones. But here again we misuse our FREE WILL, we do not allow the cosmic force of DEATH & REJUVINATION to enter and cleanse our system instead we repeatedly abuse the forces of CREATION and MAINTENANCE and hang on to the event gone by constantly and hence multiply our own suffering and misery.

THE BIG PICTURE microcosmic....

So now that we are familiar with the modus-operandi of the mind we will proceed to see how various other faculties are influencing and shaping it. But before we proceed any further we must also equip ourselves with the understanding of the fact that all these various processes of the mind, that is PERCEPTION, “SORTING, CROSS-REFERENCING & TAGGING” etc... are happening in fractions of a second (microseconds rather) and to us (in our present state) seem as one single entity. Making us feel a sense of helplessness when it comes to generating appropriate reactions specially to unpleasant and provocative situations (since they are tagged with super charged emotional heavy weights such as anger & suffering etc...) .
So now we will enter into the “mental mechanics” of the girl, let us call her Susan, who is suffering because of being cheated by a person, let us say Craig.
STEP 1: PERCEPTION of a particular situation or verbal information via some person gives Susan a confirmation of being cheated. A confirmed situation is at hand is being PERCIEVED
STEP 2: Immediately the “SORTING, CROSS-REFERENCING & TAGGING” process for this perceived situation begins.
STEP 2A: The situation is immediately sorted as BAD
STEP 2B: CROSS-REFERENCING is done with the existing memory record system of her mental setup and the data, either from previous personal experiences of a similar kind or borrowed ideas from her socio-cultural milieu, further classifies this situation as appalling, “why me?”, “this can’t be happening” etc..., memories of the sufferings she herself underwent on previous occasions of being cheated, or if it is the first experience for her then, the stories and sufferings of people who had undergone a similar experience either personally known to her or via media ( movies, T.V, novels etc...) flood her system.
STEP 2C: Once cross-referenced the situation is now TAGGED as an emotional trauma.
STEP 3: Deemed an emotional trauma the generic response to it that is suffering, emotional outburst, anger etc... begin to erupt in her system beyond her control and she sinks deeper and deeper into suffering while oscillating like a yo-yo between the extremes of anger ( against Craig) and helplessness (towards this situation and her own self).
Next, we will go on to see how the four principle cosmic forces are in action in Susan’s mind and how she uses (rather abuses) her free will to interfere with their functioning.

TOWARDS THE BIG PICTURE

Now let us enter into the mechanics of the mind of this girl (or boy) who has undergone the bitter experience of being cheated in a relationship. The situation of being cheated arises in her life. This situation is initially just PERCEIVED. Now, no matter how outrageous or extraterrestrial this may seem but the fact is that the situations by themselves are just situations, totally bland and totally neutral it is we who judge and TAG them as good or bad, pleasant or bitter etc according to our MENTAL-SETUP. A situation is initially perceived neutrally without any TAGGING and hence is incapable of generating any response, since unless TAGGED and hence automatically linked to a generic emotional response of that particular tag, no situation in itself is capable of producing any joy or pain. Unless tagged and linked to the corresponding emotion. After PERCEPTION the mind enters into “SORTING, CROSS-REFERENCING & TAGGING” mode, these three are almost a simultaneous processes, SORTING is a more general activity in which the situations are very broadly classified into good or bad (that’s the basic fundamental, though they may be classified as correct or incorrect, success or failure, etc..One of the opposites) once sorted into a particular category of opposite (that is good or failure or correct etc...) it is immediately CROSS-REFERENCED with the existing memory record system and automatically TAGGED. Let us understand this entire three step process with another example, before we proceed any further, in a scenario of arranged marriages if a boy rejects a girl then immediately after perception of this situation, by the girl, it would be sorted into bad or failure category with the help of cross-referencing with the existing memory record system of the mind, which would identify this situation either through previous personal experiences or borrowed ideas from the socio-cultural milieu around it .This cross-referencing would immediately christen this situation as painful either through previous personal experience or via borrowed ideas embedded in the MENTAL-SETUP. Automatically the situation gets TAGGED as an emotional trauma and hence the generic response to the tag of emotional trauma which may be suffering or crying or depression would get generated. But in a similar scenario of rejection where the girl is not interested in getting married and is being forced by the family to do so (for whatever reason, career,lover,disinterest etc...) same situation of rejection would be sorted as good or success, with the help of cross-referencing with the existing memory record system of the mental-setup which would hail this as a favourable outcome and hence tag it as pleasant or enjoyable outcome and hence generate the generic response of pleasure or relief or happiness. So we see very clearly that situations by themselves are neutral the same situation is capable of generating two starkly opposite responses (suffering as well as pleasure and relief). The response generated depends totally on our mental-setup.

FROM THE JIGSAW TO THE PICTURE

Free will, the four principle cosmic forces, life as it is our choice, two tier action of cosmic forces on the mind- body organism, innate & social intelligence......... and so much more has been discussed till now but how and where do all these facts meet and where do they fit in, in the big picture (if there is one at all!!!!).
For that let us start from where we last left.
“So where in lies the fault? From where do misery, doubt, anger, jealousy, depression, laziness etc...(And the entire gamut of negativity garbage) arise?
INNATE INTELLIGENCE is pure and perfect by its very nature and SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE is an absolute necessity!!! Then from where has this pile of negativity garbage arisen in us??? “.
Let’s understand all this with a few illustrative examples. A child suffers a drowning experience before the age seven, now this traumatic experience will get recorded in his formative MENTAL-SETUP and water bodies will be TAGGED as dangerous and traumatic in his MENTAL-SETUP and hence the generic response to danger, that is fear, will get associated with water bodies. So every time he sees a water body his MENTAL-SETUP would identify it with dangerous and traumatic TAG and this would automatically generate the associated response of fear in him unnecessarily. The water body he is seeing now has no relation to the previous water body in which he had the drowning experience, moreover that time he was a small kid of 3 feet now he is an adult of 6 feet everything is so unrelated but since the MENTAL-SETUP has done its(water bodies) TAGGING with the powerful emotion (the generic response for danger) of fear the intellect gets completely clouded by this flood of emotion and the mind is unable to see the stark differences (rather a complete lack of any association) between the two situations and the person starts to suffer from phobia of water bodies. This is how our own MENTAL-SETUP imprisons us with its imposing bars of limitations.
Now let us consider a situation where a girl gets cheated by her boyfriend (or a guy gets cheated by his girlfriend) and goes through an extremely bitter experience. Now, the four principle cosmic forces that are CREATION, MAINTENANCE, CONSTANT CHANGE (EVOLUTION) and REJUVENATION (DEATH) are constantly working on her mind and body. Mind by its very nature is a constant flux of a stream of thoughts that is why we find it so difficult to concentrate on one single thing for a long duration, hence in the mind there is a continuous CREATION of thoughts, these thoughts can be MAINTAINED sometimes according to our given priority and sometimes by their shear intensity. That is, since reaching the office or college on time is a higher priority (as assigned by us in our mental-setup) than visiting a sick or ailing neighbours house the thought of reaching the office or college on time would maintain or assert itself for a longer duration(and quickly push out the thought of visiting the ailing neighbours home). Hence it will shape all our decisions about what we do and what we do not do. Hence our actions would constantly be dictated by it. If left to the normal course of events this thought of reaching the office in time would CONSTANTLY CHANGE (EVOLVE) as per the needs, that is it would express itself as getting up early in the morning to begin with then change to quick freshening up and then may be into skipping the breakfast and hurrying to drive or catch the bus if the time is still scarce. And as a natural progression it would DIE off when we reach the office or college and its place would be taken by a new thought about the previous days assignment or the presentation ahead in the day hence the system would be REJUVINATED by a new thought.
But here in steps the FREE WILL and the drama of human life begins.

SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE further....

Memory & social etiquette's. Understanding, adoption and living of social customs and traditions and the shining jewel in the crown, language (to help us express ourselves to the outer world, to interact, to communicate and express ourselves) are all the various facets of SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE. We must understand that without social intelligence we would be a misfit in the society. SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE is the essential "societal existence and survival gear". Both our mind and body need to be equipped with it (SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE) in order to maintain a comfortable and smooth social subsistence. A simple example of social intelligence at work on the body is toilet training of small children. With time the body learns to exercise control over itself and hence is able to produce a more socially acceptable behaviour (imagine life without toilet training!!!!).
Similarly, we would not last a second in this social jungle without our memory. Memory is an extremely important part of our "societal existence and survival" arsenal both professionally and personally. Professionally, all the knowledge that we have gained in our lives from kindergarten to university to the constant influx of newly generated experiences is nothing but memory and personally too we are pressed by a constant need for data bank maintenance (memory) right down from who is who to birthdays & anniversaries to who did what and who’s a friend and who’s a foe etc etc... Imagine a person with head injury and a complete loss of memory, his entire life gets washed out like ink from paper. He is now unable to identify or relate with his own parents, wife and children (all of whom he had held s dear in his life). The entire fabric of his life (social life) gets ripped and shredded. So we see that how indispensably essential memory is to our existence.
Again it is the social intelligence that gives us the ideas about right and wrong, do’s and don’ts, aims and ambitions etc... and in effect makes us behave the way we do, dress the way we do and talk the way (as well as the content of talk) we talk mostly in accordance or in opposition of the existing and indoctrinated social and moral codes of conduct.
Finally, most importantly and principally all these various functions are achieved via-media of LANGUAGE. Language is indispensable to our societal existence without language (in this present state of ours) neither can we think ourselves (or even for ourselves) nor can we express anything useful to the world outside (chiefly because there is nothing much to express either, since we ourselves are handicapped without language and cannot think or imagine without it).
So where in lies the fault? From where do misery, doubt, anger, jealousy, depression, laziness etc...(And the entire gamut of negativity garbage) arise?
INNATE INTELLIGENCE is pure and perfect by its very nature and SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE is an absolute necessity!!! Then from where has this pile of negativity garbage arisen in us???

SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE

Let us begin with clearly understanding each of the two intelligentsia (INNATE & SOCIAL) integrated into our “MIND-BODY ORGANISM”.
As the very name suggests INNATE is innate or inherent to our system, that is, it is a part of standard or original “MIND-BODY ORGANISM” equipment. On the other hand SOCIAL intelligence is an accessory implanted onto the standard “MIND-BODY ORGANISM” equipment. The INNATE intelligence is universal, inclusive, accommodating and adaptive in nature. SOCIAL on the other hand is culturally confined, exclusive and rigid.
These stark differences can be easily exemplified by a comparison between a child and an adult. A child (less than seven years of age, without a MENTAL SETUP, as previously discussed) is a “MIND-BODY ORGANISM” equipped only with INNATE intelligence and hence he is a global citizen. That is, if it were to be adopted by parents belonging to any corner of the globe, no matter how distant, (for example, an African child by Australian parents or an American child by Indian parents etc..) it would accept them as his parents (universal), it would automatically learn the language and pick up the customs and traditions of that particular part of the globe (inclusive and accommodating) and even when repeatedly reminded by people around him about physical differences between him and his parents he would question the same to his parents and adapt according to the answers given.
An adult with a fully functional SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE implanted into his “MIND-BODY ORGANISM” struggles to spend even a month or a week in a different socio-cultural milieu leave alone adapting to it for life. An adult is culturally confined, that is, we find it difficult to open up and mix up with people from differing socio-cultural backgrounds. An adult is, exclusive, that is, we are always busy sticking the “EXCLUDED” label on people. Somehow we find reasons to exclude most of the people around us and then surround ourselves with a handful we call our core group or near and dear ones and then we subject them also to our continuous (though subconscious) scrutiny. And if on any occasion or event they to do not match up with our “MENTAL CROSS-REFERENCE RECORD SYSTEM” of DO’S and DONT’S even they (the members of core group) are liable to being labeled “EXCLUDED”. An adult is rigid, that is, no matter how obviously wrong we may be we find it extremely hard to accept our mistake (we always have an explanation for the same) and it is exceedingly difficult for us to adapt to anything totally new (be it language, culture, ideas, people or for that matter even the climate).
At this point we must understand that SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE is not the villain we are looking out for, as the sole cause of all the miseries in our lives, upon whom we can lay down the entire burden of responsibility for anything and everything that can and has gone wrong in our lives. There are more pleasing and functional aspects to it too.

INTELLIGENCE (detailed)

The expression of universal intelligence, unhindered, without and independent of our knowledge or permission is called the INNATE INTELLIGENCE.
When hungry we eat food, when tiered we go to sleep, when thirsty we drink water etc..... these are all the EXPRESSION OF INTELLIGENCE. That is, when the innate intelligence of our system functions through us by giving us choices it is called the EXPRESSION OF INTELLIGENCE. CHOICES? (One may wonder how?)
For example, The INNATE INTELLIGENCE of our system decides that our body and senses are tired and they need rest. It sends across this message as a feeling of sleepiness but we choose to ignore it, with burning eyes, begging us for some rest and sleep, we continue to watch a movie or a match late into the night. We choose to ignore the INNATE INTELLIGENCE of our own system and hence hinder with the EXPRESSION OF INTELLIGENCE.
These scenarios as discussed above are the INNATE INTELLIGENCE and the EXPRESSION OF INTELLIGENCE in the physical body of our “MIND-BODY ORGANISM”. These two entities (that is the INNATE INTELLIGENCE & the EXPRESSION OF INTELLIGENCE) are also equally functional in our mind.
For example, we meet a person for the first time and immediately (if we remain sensitive enough) we get a so called “vibe” from him. We instantaneously know him not through words not through any descriptions or hearsay evidences we just know him in a whiff of a moment without even having exchanged a word or a handshake this is INNATE INTELLIGENCE. Then immediately our SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE (we will define and discuss this entity shortly) takes over if we get a “vibe” of goodness from him, which automatically would also reflect in his actions then immediately our SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE will take over and we would become suspicious of him we would start judging him and will constantly be on a look out to find out the intention behind his integrity and if we get a bad “vibe” but we have some vested interest in the person (a wealthy business partner, boss, a better performing classmate who could help us with his notes etc etc....) our SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE would immediately take over and completely blanket this “vibe” with a flurry of explanations “don’t be emotional, this world is a very practical place”, “don’t judge people before hand , how much do you know him?”, “oh he is such a nice person that is why he has been rewarded with so much success” etc etc... We silently side by our SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE, find a fault or some imaginary sinister intention, laced with vested interest and ultimately personal gains, in the action and behaviour of the person with “vibe” of goodness and ultimately shun him and continue to hang around people with bad “vibe” ignoring all their palpably obvious vices because of our own hidden agenda (promotion, investment, help with understanding of a subject etc..) and vested interests. We choose to ignore the INNATE INTELLIGENCE of our own system and hence hinder with the EXPRESSION OF INTELLIGENCE.
Another important thing that we must understand is the TYPES OF INTELLIGENCE.
As seen above it is of two types
1) INNATE INTELLIGENCE
2) SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE
We have seen, discussed and understood the innate intelligence, we shall go on next to see, discuss and understand the social intelligence and its functioning on both the tiers (mind and body) of the “MIND-BODY ORGANISM”.

REPLY TO COMMENT ON the fork in the road

very true my friend, choices if not handled properly can become an incessant source of misery and in that situation not choosing seems to be the most beautiful and reliable option but remember that not choosing is also a choice, that is we have chosen "TO NOT TO CHOOSE" and if this choice is made without readiness (as defined in the blog on readiness previously) then again we have chosen only dilemma and misery for ourselves.
For example if we choose “TO NOT TO CHOOSE” and suddenly we get a call from a very good college to pursue a course of our liking, we will immediately start to critically analyze it and start to look for some missing link (something wrong, something fishy about it) and even if we join it we would never respect it, in fact we would always live in the delusion that “if I could get this much without any effort imagine where could have I been, had I put just a little effort” since it came to us without our so called efforts( the same thing happens in relationships when we take the other person for granted as our own belonging or right and then loose respect for them).{The topic of why we choose what we choose and why we are the way we are has been dealt with in the series labeled MENTAL SETUP}
It is only when "TO NOT TO CHOOSE" arises out of the knowledge of choices available, experience(and not just theoretical knowledge)of the cosmic intelligence working and shaping our own lives every moment and an overwhelming sense of gratitude for what IS (we shall be coming to it, a bit later though) that this choice of "TO NOT TO CHOOSE" becomes an ultimate flowering of our lives and leads us automatically to higher and higher possibilities and this is precisely what we are attempting by integrating ourselves. By integrating ourselves we are going through the process of intelligently (as defined in previous article) assessing our TRUE choices, choosing with a sense of RESPONSIBILITY and understanding the NECESSITY (as defined in previous article) of going through the entire process leading ourselves to that ultimate state (space) where ALL POSSIBILITIES are equated the same as NO POSSIBILITIES (a paradox as it may seem, but is a very much an experiential truth or reality, we shall come to it also, a bit later though)

FORK IN THE ROAD (CHOICE)

May be not at seven or seventeen years of age but...... 37...., 57..., 77...., 97...... Years, decades after decades pass by us and we keep sinking deeper and deeper in our own undoing, that is, the MIND. The independently intelligent operating system capable of identifying possibilities and choosing from them or the MIND, which was supposed to make our life beautiful by presenting to us the arcade of choices available and hence escalate us to higher and higher pedestals of life opening up further and further new possibilities by helping us make the right CHOICES has become our own self made prison of incapability’s and inability to correctly identify choices. But how has such a blunder come to happen???
The operating software of our life (MIND) which was supposed to have filled our lives with joy, enrich it with possibilities and help us experience more and more beauty and hence leading us to further and further higher pedestals of existence seems to be doing just the opposite!!!! (That seems to be a universal experience without any exception)
To understand what went wrong? Where? And how? Of this paradoxical situation (paradox, because the mind which was supposed to be the greatest blessing and source of joy has become the biggest annoyance) we need to have a closer look at the “MIND-BODY ORGANISM” (or the human being) and it’s functioning.
Human beings as we like to connote ourselves, are not just the body or the mind, nor are they just a mind in the body, they, rather we, actually are “MIND-BODY ORGANISMS”. That is the actions and functions of the body affect the mind and the actions and functions of the mind affect the mind. The functions, actions and responses of both the mind and the body are mutually interlinked.
For example if we were to taste very bad food (which is a simple perception, physical gustatory action, of the tongue) we will experience a sense of irritation or anger or discontentment etc...(Which are mental activities or the responses of the mind) similarly if we were very upset due to any particular reason (which is a mental faculty) we would not experience any pleasurable taste in the food served to us no matter how delectable it may be (which is a simple perception, physical gustatory action, of the tongue).
So we see that, as hinted in THE BLUE PRINT APPLIED section, our mind and bodies are mutually intertwined ,and so much so, that we have completely lost the understanding that they still are two entities (mutually dependent and interrelated though). We also need to familiarize ourselves with the concept of INTELLIGENCE and EXPRESSION OF INTELLIGENCE in these two spaces (that is the mind and the body)
INTELLIGENCE pervades our entire system. How the bread we eat become the blood that flows, the bones that hold us, the muscles that move us and much much more is beyond our comprehension and yet it happens so smoothly and silently that we are virtually oblivious to it. We don’t even bother (neither there is any need to) that how all this would happen, all we do is just eat food and forget about it. How the heart continues to beat incessantly? How the lungs filter out the carbon dioxide and take in oxygen continuously? How the mind makes sense out of sights, sounds and actions? All these and many more questions we have never bothered to bother ourselves with!!!!
Answers apart, but all these questions themselves prove one thing for sure that there is an INNATE INTELLIGENCE running our bodies without our permission or knowledge. This INNATE INTELLIGENCE functions in our body via media the same four cosmic forces, which are CREATION, MAINTENANCE, CONSTANT CHANGE (EVOLUTION) and REJUVENATION (DEATH). This expression of universal intelligence, unhindered, without and independent of our knowledge or permission is called the INNATE INTELLIGENCE.

LIVING THE LABELS

We have transformed ourselves into entities who live LABELS instead of life. That is, a certain kind of tag or label gets incorporated into our software, operating system, (that also without our knowledge) by the socio-cultural milieu around us and we get busy living it.
For example, on an occasion or two a person publically loses his temper. Once he is settled people around him will tell two things either they will justify what he did and tell him that what he did in that situation was correct or they will TAG or LABEL him as “an angry or volatile person”. They will come and repeatedly tell him that he is an angry person, they will remind him of various real and hypothetical events of recent and remote past to prove their point (of course there also is a third and an extremely rare breed of people who will present the truth as it is & help the person to reflect on it, but they have not been mentioned here for the shear lack of their numbers and rarity), and voila we have an angry young man between us. Now, there will arise situations where he does not actually feel precipitously angry or angry enough to exhibit the same. But soon enough his “angry young man” TAG (LABEL) would kick into action and even without his knowledge or control he will burst into anger tantrums and will regret having done so later. This, now, will become a vicious circle. He lives with a guilt of unnecessarily throwing temper tantrums along with the constant fear of being unable to control his temper when situation demands him to.
This truly is a difficult and yet a comic situation at the same time. It is difficult because this person would repeatedly make a fool out himself by losing his temper unnecessarily and then would keep regretting (feeling guilty) the same and it is comic because he does not realize that it is not he who kicks in the irritability storm rather the LABEL (TAG) (given to him by the society), which sadly he believes to be himself (it is his identification with the LABEL), that makes him behave the way he does.
Another example, a person who has been very straightforward and honest gets into trouble repeatedly because of his straightforward ways. People around him start RE-PROGRAMMING him. They tell him all possible imaginable and unimaginable nonsense about how corrupt this world and these times are, they tell him how all these noble values are only meant to be enshrined in religious and moral books never supposed to be practiced in real life etc etc.. This young man, (unknowingly though) due to continuous socio-cultural RE-PROGRAMMING, TAGS (LABELS) honesty and straightforwardness of his inner nature (operating software, mind) as “socially useless” to a certain extent “harmful to own self”.
Whenever a certain situation arises his mind tries to respond naturally with its innate honesty and straightforwardness but this process is immediately taken over and shut down by the newly implanted LABEL of “socially useless” and “harmful to own self” pasted over honesty and straightforwardness. These LABELS now force him to behave with deception and dishonesty which of course he regrets later. But, as if under the influence of some invisible force, again and again he is forced to behave in this fashion and then regret having done that, since this is against his innate nature until he becomes totally insensitive and corrupted to a point where he himself becomes an ardent believer of the lies such as “all these noble values are only meant to be enshrined in religious and moral books never supposed to be practiced in real life” etc.
This is what is meant by LIVING THE LABELS and NOT THE LIFE. This is the Cage of our own self imposed limitations. This is what was intended to be expressed by the lines “Now the child is crippled, instead of expressing himself freely and exploring life, as he was doing until now, he is forced to live life out of the limitations implanted into its mind”. And it is here that the subtle FORK IN THE ROAD (CHOICE) comes into light.

OBVIOUS APPLICATION continued

By the age seven the socio-cultural milieu of the child has installed a functional, base line reference for life, software (mind) into its hardware (brain).
Now the child is crippled, instead of expressing himself freely and exploring life, as he was doing until now, he is forced to live life out of the limitations implanted into its mind.
For example, someone who himself was poor at mathematics and was afraid of it tells the child that it’s a difficult subject. The child will initially try to get a confirmation of this from his parents (who even without their awareness are a child’s referencing system and he obtains their seal of approval before accepting, storing, archiving an acceptable thought or discarding an incorrect one) , the child also has a counter check mechanism of his socio-cultural milieu. If his parents do not support this idea or his friends do not concur or he learns by example from his teacher, that mathematics is an enjoyable subject he will then be saved. But if all of these referencing mechanisms agree with the belief that “yes mathematics is a difficult subject” then the child is doomed to develop a handicap into his possibilities. If this idea that “mathematics is a difficult subject” gets incorporated into his software then the next time around he touches his mathematics book his mind would already be flashing the red lights and siren of “DIFFICULT “so bright and so loud that nothing would make sense and even if it does he will sure enough make the silly mistakes, subconsciously though, and ensure poor grades and hence the sustenance of this wrong belief again and again.
This is what we end up doing all our lives. Some idea gets implanted into our mind and we start living it out. Some child gets implanted with the right ideas about success, he starts living that idea (until of course that idea gets shaken by some wrong or negative idea via some adverse incident) on the other hand another child gets implanted with wrong ideas of failure, low self-esteem, poor capabilities etc and he starts living them out with failure and disappointments galore.
If were to keenly observe our lives we would find that we are looping in a circle of “same situation different faces, same circumstances different places” that is we are continuously living our own past good or bad. We have become trapped in limitations laid out by our own mind and like a tiger in a zoo cage, we can only go this far (as far as the cage of our own self imposed limitations allows us to).
And this is where the concept of CHOICE comes into action.

THE MORE OBVIOUS APPLICATION

So how does this knowledge of FREE WILL (an exception to the cosmic rule), two level working of these four {CREATION, MAINTENANCE, CONSTANT CHANGE (EVOLUTION) and REJUVENATION (DEATH)} forces in one being (another exception to order of the cosmos), change our perspective into life.
Well, putting it simply it brings to light completely new and revolutionary understanding that is
LIFE, AS IT IS, IS OUR OWN CHOICE.
It is the direct expression of our own FREE WILL. Secondly
THERE IS A POSSIBILITY TO GO EITHER WAY EVERY SINGLE MOMENT
Since the mind (the operating system) is in a constant state of flux we need to be aware of what choices (thoughts) we are making every single moment.
Let us proceed step by step dissecting every single concept mentioned above
I. LIFE, AS IT IS, IS OUR OWN CHOICE
Immediately the mind hurls the counter argument of choice of birth against this statement. That is if life were our choice then why someone would be so stupid to choose to take birth in poverty, famine and civil war ridden Somalia. If it were a choice then “I would myself have chosen this”,”I would myself have become that” etc etc..... is what the mind is presently chattering. The theory of KARMA, the concept of life as a continuum and previous births are the ample and available explanations of the above raised doubts but we will not delve into them since all that is not much of direct consequence to us right now and most importantly our aim is to experience a better, more joyful, more successful life NOW rather than engaging ourselves in futile theological and metaphysical discussions about previous births and life after death etc..
So let us see how we have chosen to shape up this life of ours as it is.
Till the age of seven our operating system (mind) is still in its formative state it is just receiving the information from its surroundings and storing it, it is continuously seeking clarification so as to correctly archive each and every bit of information (memory), that is why we see that the children are continuously asking questions much to the peril and sometimes embarrassment of parents. This is a very critical time period, parents must infuse only positive and correct software (information, memory) into their children. For those whose mind is now questioning the concept of choice, since the programming of childhood seems to be a totally choice less event, let us remember that, right from our timing of birth to place, parents and our entire socio-cultural milieu we are born to is our choice (we are unaware of it after birth though) the detailed mechanics of which we have not discussed here in order to save time and quickly jump over to the more pertinent and pressing issues of this (present) life. Therefore, in conclusion we have chosen our parents and our entire socio-cultural milieu in accordance to the life we wanted to live, and hence, they have only loaded the software (MENTAL SETUP) we ourselves wanted to, in order to live and experience this life.
After the age of seven once are operating system (MIND) becomes functional and kicks into action the real fun and the obviously apparent game of choices and their ensuing results follows.